Used, abused and totally taken for granted

[blowry]

Originally Posted by Tink

Yes Brenda, I need to know tht I'm NOT NUTS to feel this way!
I am SO sick of this and my husband is the one who refuses to let me kick them out or make them grow up!


I haven't done their laundry since they turned 12... for me that was the magic age to start doing your own. I had them do chores, had them do yard work and dishes, and so on when they were younger. Hubby is the one who seems to think they will just miraculously start doing this stuff again now that they've quit. I KNOW they won't because they know he won't let me do anything about it.

I am seriously about ready to just move out and let them destroy his house. he's never here anyway, so why not? HE is their enabler and I rank somewhere far below any of them.

Tink you really need to sit with hubby and let him know how you feel..I know what it feels like when you are at your wits end! The girls father (divorced now) was just like this...instead of making them do something he would just do it...didn't teach them anything...I have to say though I have very good girls...believe I had my days with them but, they are grown up now...

Have you ever thought about talking to someone? I mean professionally...sounds like you need it...and I DO mean this in the most sincere considerate way. And, if hubby thinks this is ok then I would let hubby deal with it...I wouldn't do anything for him either....let him take this on for a while and see what he thinks...My heart really goes out to you Tink....Sometimes you'd just like to give them a smack!

Chin up Tink.. it does get better as they get older!