Used, abused and totally taken for granted

[DianaB]

I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself!! Just stick with it and they'll see that you mean it and hopefully things will change. Good luck and let us know how things are going.

[Janet]

I think it's great that you sent them an email. That way you can get your feelings out without them wanting to debate it. I just know it will work out somehow, just stick to your rules.

[Kimberley]

Ah, Tink! You've gotten some good advice. I was going to suggest going on strike...I've done it in the past because I didn't get help from hubby. You just hang in there...you've got a great group of friends here that will back you up and support you.

I was also going to suggest...If it were me??? I'd take about $500-1,000 and leave for a week. I'd find a cheap hotel somewhere and take a vacation just for me. I'd sleep in, eat meals by myself, go sight seeing, go watch an opera...whatever. But I'd live for ME for a week.

[khardy57]

Tink,
You've really had some good advice given here. I'm glad to see that you've taken the first step to getting control back from your kids. I am going to go one step further though. If the kids don't straighten up, I'd leave. You said your husband would choose them over you - so be it. You MUST have some kind of peace in your life and if you can't get it any other way then I'd leave. They've got to realize that you are serious.

I hope it works out for you. Please let us know what happens.

Kim

[cindy0721]

Good for you Tink! I was also going to suggest some of the above but what everyone told you is right on the $$... tell you what IF that hubby of yours won't respect you or your decisions.. show him the door .. tell him if he does not agree with how you run your house well"That door he sees right there, is wide enough for all three of them to leave out of!"