Feeling down

[Marilyn]

Brenda, my heart goes out to you, too. Do you have a strong church family??? If not, you may consider finding one. You need some strong loving support. Our blood families can sometimes provide this, but they may be too close to the issue to give you the comfort & reassurance that you really need. You need someone to talk to in person who can help you cope, either a councelor, who may be expensive if you insurance won't cover, or a church family who don't ask a lot, but have a lot to give.

You and your husband are in my prayers.

[khardy57]

Brenda,
I'm so sorry you're going thru this. It's very dealing with a person who's bi-polar. I know, I have a family who is bi-polar. I will be praying for you and for your husband. It took a life and death situation for my family member to realize that he had to be responsible for himself.

God bless you.

[blowry]

Thank everyone for your kind words...I have thought about seeing a therapist for my own sanity...I keep telling myself there is a reason God put me with Eric...maybe to help him? I don't know but, I do love him with all of my heart and won't give up...I have a very strong faith and do hold onto that. I'm just praying that Eric see's the light before it's too late.

Thank you so much everyone

Hugs to you all
Brenda

[Brooke]

God bless you... I will keep you in my prayers also...

[Gina]

Brenda ,
Janet and Tink gave you wonderful advice. I cannot add to much on bi polar for I never encounter anyone in my family with this problem. I do know one thing, I had problems with my husband awhile ago, he came from an emotional abusive family, and he was doing this to me over the years, I will be married 25 yrs in the Spring. I stepped up to the plate , not realizing I allowed him to treat me this way, and sought therapy. The best thing I ever did. We are still together, he is a good man basically but a cold person. I have learned to accept him and I don't let him get away with much these days. Brenda go for therapy you will find your answers. God Bless..

[DianaB]

Brenda.....My parents were divorced and my father was paranoid schizophrenic and I know that mental illness is very hard to live with. We (my husband and I)went through the "I'm doing alright and I don't need my medicine" phase with my Dad too. We were at the point of telling my Dad that if he didn't get help that we never wanted anything more to do with him when he finally listened to us and got help. I can't image living WITH your situation. It was hard enough just dealing with my Dad occassionally.

You have to take care of yourself and find joy around you or his illness will pull you down too. Find little things to be happy about. Draw happiness and joy from your family. If you're planning on staying in this marriage you have to draw your strength from friends and family. You have to be the strong one. Don't let his ups and downs control your life.

I'm praying that the Lord will give you strength and wisdom on how to deal with this, also that you'll have joy and laughter in your life, and good friends to help you. I also pray that you'll have God's presence near you to help you with what ever you may face. Just know that you're not facing this alone, God is with you and we are here for you as well. Keep us posted how things are going. Love and prayers--Diana

[Janet]

I do want to let everyone know that seeking professional help is one thing you can do that is well worth every penny! I went to a therapist quite a while ago and told her that I didn't want my husband to know. That some friends of ours were seeking help and that my husband said "man, everyone is going nuts." She told me "never be afraid to seek help......it's the crazy ones who don't come."

That one comment made me feel so much better....it meant (to me) that I wasn't too far gone yet. Seeing the therapist was the best thing I ever did. I recommend everyone should go, whether they think they need to or not.