Just Not Going To Work!

[DianaB]

My Dad and I had a difficult relationship. I loved him because he was my Dad, but I really didn't like him as a person. I realized that if I wasn't related to him that I probably wouldn't have been friends with him. I tried my best to be a good daughter and tried to always do my best for him, but spending time with him was difficult. He passed away this spring and, yes, I have regrets, but nothing that is really bothering me. When I start thinking about, oh I should have done this or that, I stop and remember how difficult it would have been. There was a reason that I didn't do those things.

You can tell from your post that you love your Mother and are trying to be a good daughter. Just hang in there and enjoy the time that she's in Florida. Parents can be so difficult sometimes.

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by DianaB

My Dad and I had a difficult relationship. I loved him because he was my Dad, but I really didn't like him as a person. I realized that if I wasn't related to him that I probably wouldn't have been friends with him. I tried my best to be a good daughter and tried to always do my best for him, but spending time with him was difficult. He passed away this spring and, yes, I have regrets, but nothing that is really bothering me. When I start thinking about, oh I should have done this or that, I stop and remember how difficult it would have been. There was a reason that I didn't do those things.

You can tell from your post that you love your Mother and are trying to be a good daughter. Just hang in there and enjoy the time that she's in Florida. Parents can be so difficult sometimes.

Diana was typing while I was, and has good advice also, we have to do the best we can and try to not have regrets. We certainly cannot change the past, so we just try to do our best and realize or limitations. Huggs.

[Janet]

Thank you ladies...you all gave good advice. What I think will work best for me is to love my mother from afar. I will be there when she needs me...but keep my distance the rest of the time. That way...maybe things will be better between us. We don't see each other that much anyway...because of the friction...but I will try to just keep my thoughts and opinions to myself..unless she asks for them. Maybe that will work best.