Getting tired...really tired...

[khardy57]

Kimberley, I feel for you! My late husband's father was the same way with my husband. My husband finally told me "You don't have to put up with him, but I have to take care of my mother" Our compromise was that I didn't go to their house for any get togethers and my husband went only long enough to make sure his Dad wasn't showing out to his Mother, then he came home.

(We lived across the pasture from them)

It wasn't fun with my in-laws, but thank God, my husband never forced me to deal with them.

If your husband doesn't grow any, I'd feel free to say whatever was necessary, especially when it came to the kids. When it came to my boys, I didn't care what I said or who I said it in front of.

another Kimberly

[rivermom]

I am sorry you are going through this, it can't be easy. Is there a way to separate yourself from your inlaws? Just don't be with them? I have watched a friend pretty much go through the same situation you are in and I have pretty much asked her the same thing.

She asked me what to do so I offered her my thoughts. I mentioned she has choices she could make and for her to do what she felt best. Needless to say she continues to place herself in the presence of family members (inlaws) she doesn't care for. And by doing so makes herself miserable.

I hope it all gets better for you.

I myself find it personally straining to be with many of my inlaws also. I have made the decision for myself just to not be around them unless i absolutely have to be. It's made a much more positive and happier relationship with my hubby.