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02-19-2007, 09:35 AM
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I truly think that what you are going through is very normal and many women have experienced the same feelings you are. I know w/ out a doubt I went through this many years ago. It truly is a struggle and I feel for you. Try to find the positive in all that you are providing for your family. The Mom-taxi, cooking, cleaning, etc are your gifts that you are giving of yourself. Those gifts are priceless and remember when you give, you will receive ten-fold back. Try not to feel as if "you are just kinda here". You are an important person and you need to give yourself credit for all you do. The feelings you have should pass and open up your heart w/ positiveness and realize that better things will happen. I think if you allow yourself to stay "trapped in your negative thoughts" it only opens the door for more drama and negativity. Keep it positive, make time for YOU and what you'd like to enjoy, and smile each time you give your gift of yourself to your family. Even if it's not shown I bet honestly they truly appreciate it. Hang in there, and remember...Try to remain positive and allow the good things and feelings to come back into you. 
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03-19-2007, 10:51 AM
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this is what i mean by the are you in love post, the difference of loving someone and being in love, you dont feel the in love feeling anymore, you want attention, love, care, to feel loved, and to feel speical again not unloved un noticed, and taken for grunted, .
i think a lot of men take time to show us ladys love when we first get together then after time they dont mean to but they just get lazy about it, i also think us ladys i brought up on fairy storys of love and romance and we all want that when we are grown up but sadly prince charming isnt real or if he is hes prob gay lol have you talked to your partner about how your feeling? maybe if he knew he could help you out more and maybe make you feel more loved 
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03-19-2007, 11:38 AM
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I am very blessed in my marriage I have to admit. I don't feel as if I am "just here". Everyday I never doubt that my husband loves me and "is in love with me". I don't feel he gets lazy and forgets to show it. He does all the time but it's usually me who does the pushing away.
I am in love with him too. Sure it's not that crazy heart beated feeling when we first met, but it's a mature love based on respect, admiration, and content with one another. I feel we both have a real partnership in our life together. It took a long road to find this happiness and I believe there are sacrafices one has to make to achieve an honest happiness. In no way am I saying my marriage or relationship is perfect, it's far from it. But I feel we are good for each other and I am grateful.
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03-19-2007, 11:46 AM
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I also feel that I have been blessed with an incredibly loving and caring husband. We really haven't had to work that hard to achieve this happiness, but I know it would be worth it even if it had been hard...and I've definitely seen my share of couples having a hard time. I wish I could magically make every couple in the world have a happy and fulfilling marriage... I've considered becoming a marriage counselor, but I don't know if I'd be good at it or not. Anyway, I'm just rambling now, but I wanted to tell you congrats on getting to such a happy place in your marriage!! I hope you only grow closer and closer together as the years go by!
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03-19-2007, 11:55 AM
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Thanks Angie!  If you have a desire in your life to do counseling then go for it! Don't let your inhibitions talk you out of it. Id hate to see you reach a point in your life saying "I wish I would have done this or that". You are young, find those dreams and fulfill them while you can. Glad you are happy also. I can always tell by your posts that you are - it shows. That is nice! And I agree with you. It would be a better world to live in if every couple could find happiness in their marriage w/ one another.
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03-19-2007, 06:08 PM
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 ) and it made things worse!? I'd HATE that since marriage, especially young and struggling marriages, mean so much to me. I want more than anything to see people have loving and happy relationships. I think I'd rather live with the regret of not trying than to try and then see negative results. But thanks so much for the encouragement. It's just too much of a risk to take (for my sake as well as other's).
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