oh my god

[Gina]

Lindsey, I am going to talk to you as if I were talking to my own daughter. Now you have to pull yourself together. It is ok to cry, grieving is part of the process, but remember that you are a young beautiful girl with your whole life ahead of you. This guy was not to Nice, like Kim mentioned letting you uproot yourself with no one familiar around. Never think he is better than you for he is not. This is life and as you get older you will realize that its not always easy. People break up after being married many, many, years and have shared a lifetime together. Be thankful it happened now and not when you married.

Lindsey you never know if its meant to be it will be. Maybe he is not ready for a steady relationship and realized this now. Pull yourself together and concretrate on your school and work. Trust me your heart will heal and you will move on. One day you will not remember his name.

Like Janet said be patient.. he will find you.. We are all here for you.

[Lindsey]

thanks gina. My mom and I aren't close at all and we never talk about things like this but as soon as I walked in the door last night i grabbed my phone and called her and i couldn't even talk, i couldn't even breathe. I got to work this morning and it just took one person to ask what's wrong and the tears came. They told me to just go home and get some rest and try to feel better by monday. I could deal a little better if I saw this coming, if I could prepare myself for it. but he kept insisting nothing was wrong, right up until the day before yesterday. He wanted me to go watch a movie and stay overnight last night and it would still be going on if I didn't call back and ask straight up what's happening to us. He knew for a month. He's had a month to pull himself away from me and when i felt him pulling away I thought it was my fault and I poured even more of my heart into everything I did for him until all of me was just trying to make him happy. There's memories and things of his all over my house and I just can't bear to touch anything yet. For some reason this morning I went through my camera and looked at all the cute pictures we used to self-take of us cuddling and smiling. I feel so dead.

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Gina

Lindsey, I am going to talk to you as if I were talking to my own daughter. Now you have to pull yourself together. It is ok to cry, grieving is part of the process, but remember that you are a young beautiful girl with your whole life ahead of you. This guy was not to Nice, like Kim mentioned letting you uproot yourself with no one familiar around. Never think he is better than you for he is not. This is life and as you get older you will realize that its not always easy. People break up after being married many, many, years and have shared a lifetime together. Be thankful it happened now and not when you married.

Lindsey you never know if its meant to be it will be. Maybe he is not ready for a steady relationship and realized this now. Pull yourself together and concretrate on your school and work. Trust me your heart will heal and you will move on. One day you will not remember his name.

Like Janet said be patient.. he will find you.. We are all here for you.

I agree with everything said here. It might seem like you've fallen into a dark pit and will never recover but you will girl! You truly will. EVERYTHING happens for a reason even though right now you might not be able to see this through your broken heart.

You might realize later down your road of life that this was the best thing for you because of what you have learned, that you met someone special in your life that you will never forget, and that you will meet the person you are destined to be with. The universe is full of unanswered questions but our angels lead us in the direction we are most suitable to be in.

Deep breaths Lindsey - your heart WILL mend and it will become easier.

[Lindsey]

I texted him today. I didn't want to but I couldn't stop it. I asked him for his friend's girlfriend's number because we always got along so well and I need some girlfriends in this city. I also asked if I could stop by next week after I've calmed down enough and drop off his stuff from my house. He told me don't worry about it and I said, no, I don't want it here. He apologized again and said if he could hurt for me he would in a second. It's killing him that he broke my heart. I wish I could feel better RIGHT NOW and be over it. From how he sounded today he's sure he made the right decision. And he told me that as soon as I stop hating him, the offer to be friends still stands. I don't want to not have him in my life, but I don't know how soon i'd be okay with hanging out with him and not being jealous of other girls around him.

[Lindsey]

I am seeing red. I called the girl whose number i got from him and she felt so bad for me and told me to come right over and talk about it, so I did. She lives with her boyfriend who is my now ex's friend. After I was crying forever about how great he is she was like "He is a pig. He's a pig to treat you like this. You don't want to hear this I know but you deserve to.. He told all of his friends yesterday afternoon that he's a single man" AFTERNOON. He broke up with me late last night. She said her boyfriend was so mad about that that he called my ex right after I called them. He wanted to have a talk with him tonight but my ex is way too busy. The girl is taking me out tonight. She's getting all her girlfriends together and we're going out for drinks and dancing. He is not the guy I thought he was.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

I am seeing red. I called the girl whose number i got from him and she felt so bad for me and told me to come right over and talk about it, so I did. She lives with her boyfriend who is my now ex's friend. After I was crying forever about how great he is she was like "He is a pig. He's a pig to treat you like this. You don't want to hear this I know but you deserve to.. He told all of his friends yesterday afternoon that he's a single man" AFTERNOON. He broke up with me late last night. She said her boyfriend was so mad about that that he called my ex right after I called them. He wanted to have a talk with him tonight but my ex is way too busy. The girl is taking me out tonight. She's getting all her girlfriends together and we're going out for drinks and dancing. He is not the guy I thought he was.

I'm so glad you have found someone to confide in. Having a friend really helps when you're hurting.

[Lindsey]

Thanks everyone so much for your support. Yesterday I went shopping and got my hair done and then last night I went out and had way too much to drink and danced until my feet hurt too bad to stand up. I needed it. I went to his house today to drop off his stuff and to have a non-hysterical talk. I smiled and told him I'm doing okay. I brought up him saying he was single before we broke up and he said he was so sorry and he felt bad right after he did it. He also said I was the best girlfriend he's ever had but it just won't work. I do understand it but it still hurts. He's over me already. I said I won't be able to hang out with him for awhile as friends if he's going to have new girls already and he said he doesn't know what's going to happen but he does want me in his life. I'm just trying hard not to cry over him anymore.

[Gina]

I am soo glad that you went out and had a good time, Spring is coming and you will be feeling so much better. Don't be his friend, never works, for now anyhow. Show him that you don't need him, and you will start feeling better about yourself. The worse is over, now you will start to move forward..