Wanted or Just Needed ?

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by Emmsmom

I was just curious as to how many of you have been just wanted or needed in a relationship. Before getting married I actually felt wanted. I don't really feel that way so much anymore. Now I feel like I am just needed now more than anything. Myabe it is just a slump I am going through who knows. Midlife thingy or something. I just get tired of always being a taxi, a cook, a maid and so on. I don't know that I even feel like a wife anymore. I am jsut kinda here. My husband has said before that I need some kind of a hobby. Honestly, it would be nice but who has the time. I would love to feel wanted again. I was just wondering I how many of you have felt like this at some point in time.

I've been in this exact same slump. I know my hubby & I love each other very much but I get so frustrated with the cooking, cleaning & taxi service that I feel like that's all I'm here for. We have 4 kids (3 were mine before we met then 1 together. He claims them all as his kids but only saw the youngest as a baby). We have never been on a "date" without kids. He is 5 almost 6 yrs younger than me & is very much a "homebody". Since I'm stuck at home while he works, I want to get out when he is off. We don't really have anyone to watch the kids for us to do anything & on his off days he just wants to "stay home & relax". Friends disappear when you have four kids, Angie has her hubby, school, thier jobs & our mother still has 2 kids at home, work, & plays taxi for her mother who never learned to drive. His family lives in DC which is 6 hrs away (alittle far to be babysitters lol) & we both have a fear of hiring babysitters & how to know if you can really trust them when even family (people they never suspected) are found to abuse children. So we stay with this same routine. We need a way to break it but that is easier said than done. One person suggested to me that we have "dates" after the kids are asleep...lol. By that time I'm so tired I just want to SLEEP. So you are definitely not alone in this.

[Mandy]

Think of it this way "the hussle & bussle" is not going to last forever. In a few years time the kids are grown up, and wont need to be cared for 24/7...

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by Mandy

Think of it this way "the hussle & bussle" is not going to last forever. In a few years time the kids are grown up, and wont need to be cared for 24/7...

so true...very good point Mandy in about 20 yrs we will be thinking of these posts & laughing because now we have to "find" things to do.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Chandra Amaya

so true...very good point Mandy in about 20 yrs we will be thinking of these posts & laughing because now we have to "find" things to do.

Traci, we will probably miss all the caring for, and attending to

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by Mandy

Traci, we will probably miss all the caring for, and attending to

very, very true

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Mandy

Traci, we will probably miss all the caring for, and attending to

That's when you get all the puppies you've ever wanted. That would keep you busy!!

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

That's when you get all the puppies you've ever wanted. That would keep you busy!!

*hides from all the YT members on 4WT* but...I like cats

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Chandra Amaya

*hides from all the YT members on 4WT* but...I like cats

Cats would work, too. (Though they are not NEARLY as fun )

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

That's when you get all the puppies you've ever wanted. That would keep you busy!!

LOL Angie, i have 3 of those now, 2 yorkies, 1 lab.
Oh and a 15 year old son got to love teens LOL

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Mandy

LOL Angie, i have 3 of those now, 2 yorkies, 1 lab.
Oh and a 15 year old son got to love teens LOL

Hehe, then you still have quite a bit of caring and attending to do...