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03-26-2007, 02:49 PM
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Lindsey, thank you for your kind words, I have also read your posts and know you yourself are going thru a hard time.
Believe this: You and I will become stronger, we will survive and in time will be able to look back and be thankful we are no longer with a man who would treat us this way. They on the other hand have to look back with regret that they treated a person who only wanted to love them, make them happy, in such a cheap shabby way. Janet, funny you should mention I should put it down in words just how he made me feel. I did just that a week ago. Wrote him a long email explaining how I thought he was such a man of character, honesty, integrity. How he made me feel, leaving town like a coward, and leaving me to hear the truth from others. Then I deleted it. Thank you all for your replys. This is a nice forum and I am glad I discovered it. |
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03-26-2007, 05:21 PM
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Sorry to hear about this story and the hurt that he created. You had put your trust in him. Just curious did he ever tell you that he wanted more out of this relationship? I don't know about the office hoe, would you think that she would lie? What reason would she have to. I believe he was dishonest with you from the get go, and he preyed on your kind character..
You have been working on the job for over 20 years , I am assuming that you are an older woman and he was a older man. I am sorry to say but by him leaving without a goodbye tells me he his not a nice person. For you to email him and for his response to be none of your business, he is so wrong, he lead you on for 18 mts. you deserve more than that. Like Janet said write him a letter, but I would email it to him. Just put your cards on the table and let him know what a despeciable person that he is, and what goes around, comes around. I am sorry but he sounds like a player not a decent person. I think once you write your thoughts and send it to him, it will be a satisfaction, I know when I am fuming I need to vent to get it off my chest. I don't think this relationship will resurect and I don't think you should want it to. You need to move forward and remember that you are a decent person and good things will come to you.. Good luck! 
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03-26-2007, 05:22 PM
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Sorry about the smiley on top, I couldnt delete it after I submited it..
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03-26-2007, 07:18 PM
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Shada, the best revenge is to go on and be happy without him. You loved the man he pretended to be... not the butthead lowlife he really is. No man worth having would treat a woman the way he treated you.
I hope your heart heals soon and you're able to find love with a man who truly deserves you. Hugs
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03-26-2007, 07:25 PM
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I'm sorry you had to go through this. Some people are just so inconsiderate of the feelings of others. With time, you will look back on this and be so glad that you have moved on! I hope you feel better soon girl!
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03-26-2007, 08:58 PM
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03-27-2007, 03:28 AM
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Everyone is expressing the same thoughts that I had when reading your post. You deserve so much better. So horrible that there are such deceptive, hurtful people in this world. Wishing you well and healing after such a disappointing and painful experience. Hugs!!!
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03-28-2007, 02:46 PM
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I don't think you made a mistake at all. What wrong is falling in love? What wrong is trusting someone? What wrong is opening up your heart? Nothing.
Don't blame yourself, don't blame him. Life is full of journey's and you've found another to add to your list of many you will experience in your lifetime. Remember, everything happens for a reason. Don't allow this to stop you again from loving someone.
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03-28-2007, 03:00 PM
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No dear, not always but thank you!  Ask Mandy how I am when I'm pissed off at somebody! 
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03-28-2007, 03:13 PM
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You are so right. Thank you for your wisdom!! |
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03-28-2007, 03:18 PM
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You are so right. Thank you for your wisdom!! Reminds of this email I received a while back. From here on out, this is how I will think about my life's journeys: Let it go for 2007... By T. D. Jakes There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19] People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead. You've got to know when it's over... Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!! If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to........ LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ...... LET IT GO!!! If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth..... LET IT GO!!! If someone has angered you ........ LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge...... LET IT GO!!! If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction..... LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents LET IT GO!!! If you have a bad attitude......... LET IT GO!!! If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...... LET IT GO!!! If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him...... LET IT GO!!! If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship....... LET IT GO!!! If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves..... LET IT GO!!! If you're feeling depressed and stressed ......... LET IT GO!!! If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to...... LET IT GO!!! Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for 2007!!! LET IT GO!!! Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then . LET IT GO!!! |
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03-28-2007, 03:23 PM
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That's a great email Shada. Thanks for sharing it with us!
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03-28-2007, 03:29 PM
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Oh I LOVE that email Shada. Thanks so much for sharing it with us.
I wish you happy thoughts.
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