Devasted...

Thanks for the words of encouragement & support! It's just getting harder though. I think he's cheating on me now. He's out right now & I think that's what he's doing. I asked him earlier today if he had met someone or planned on dating while we were living together & he said that was none of my business & he meets people all the time. That to me meant that he is cheating. I can't take it anymore. I'm having anxiety attacks & my stomach is in knots. I'm literally shaking right now because I'm so hurt & angry. I can't move out because I don't have a job or any money. I'm afraid if he moves out to a friends that he's going to switch the bank accounts so I won't have any money. It's like were stuck until I'm done with school because neither of us can afford it. I just want this to be over.

[Mandy]

jessica, is there no way you could move to your family right now? Heck girl, i feel for you, its definatly not a nice situation to be in.
*hugs*

[Janet]

I don't know the law in all states, but in most...you are allowed to take half that money and go home to your family so they can help you. Don't just sit idly by and wait to see what happens...you have to take steps to help you and your daughter. If you can't go right now...then at least get half that money into your own account so you'll have something to get you started.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Jessica

Thanks for the words of encouragement & support! It's just getting harder though. I think he's cheating on me now. He's out right now & I think that's what he's doing. I asked him earlier today if he had met someone or planned on dating while we were living together & he said that was none of my business & he meets people all the time. That to me meant that he is cheating. I can't take it anymore. I'm having anxiety attacks & my stomach is in knots. I'm literally shaking right now because I'm so hurt & angry. I can't move out because I don't have a job or any money. I'm afraid if he moves out to a friends that he's going to switch the bank accounts so I won't have any money. It's like were stuck until I'm done with school because neither of us can afford it. I just want this to be over.

Jessica, I'm so sorry. This is such a hard place to be. I knew a couple one time who only stayed married because they had a mortgage and couldn't afford to live apart for a year which is required for a divorce in their state. It's a very sad thing to have to go through, I'm sure. I do agree with the others though. You should take what money is legally yours and go back home. Your family will welcome you with open arms. They don't want to see you suffering like this and your little girl needs to be in a stable environment with good role models to look up to. I think moving on would be best for you and your daughter.

Both my parents live out of state & are going through a divorce right now too. I'm sure I could move in with them but then I would have to quit school & work 2 jobs to support my daughter. My so called husband didn't come home last night & I just tried to call him & he wouldn't answer. I don't know what to do. We don't have any money for me to take half of cause we're barely getting by. He works 2 jobs. I'm thinking about just asking him to move out to a friends & leave everything as is until I'm done with school. I hope he says ok & doesn't try to screw me.

[Nina]

Originally Posted by Jessica

Both my parents live out of state & are going through a divorce right now too. I'm sure I could move in with them but then I would have to quit school & work 2 jobs to support my daughter. My so called husband didn't come home last night & I just tried to call him & he wouldn't answer. I don't know what to do. We don't have any money for me to take half of cause we're barely getting by. He works 2 jobs. I'm thinking about just asking him to move out to a friends & leave everything as is until I'm done with school. I hope he says ok & doesn't try to screw me.

Remember, he is in the military. They will not let him screw you, and they will certainly not let him get away with not supporting his daughter. Talk to a counsellor or someone who can help you there. Or, a military lawyer. Do not just sit there idly by. Good luck!