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Sometimes I don't know where I'd be without this forum! Thank you all so much for being here for me.
My ex who I dated for just over a year when I was 18/19 years old is still a very good friend of mine. I talked to him today about how upset I was so he took me out for lunch in a fancy restaurant and then we went for a drive. I came home and slept for a few hours, and calmed down a little. The girl started talking to me over msn and asked me to go to her house for coffee tonight but I declined. She then asked if I wanted to go for coffee tomorrow and see her new bike, so I said I'd see if I would wake up in time. Then she told me she was cleaning out her closet and found a bunch of clothes that don't fit her anymore, so they're mine if I want them. She just seems so DESPERATE for a friend, but I just don't think she knows how to be a friend... Anyways, the ex from lunch called again tonight and said he wanted ice cream and he'd pick me up if I wanted to join him so we went and got some ice cream and hung out for awhile again, and then I talked to my best friend on the phone for an hour. It's good to know that even when people move away and grow apart in their new lives, when you really need someone your true friends will always come back if you need them.
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04-07-2007, 02:18 AM
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You know Lindsey, you could always be honest with this 'friend' and in a kind way let her know how you're feeling about where the friendship is going. It would be sad for you to just keep putting her off, I mean she'll figure it out eventually, but why keep putting yourself in that position, to keep making excuses. You can be honest with her without being unkind.
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04-07-2007, 07:29 AM
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LIndsey, we are all thinking of you, and we know that you are a very intelligent young lady who will make the right decision and do the right thing. So glad you have 4WT to help you and your dear true friends who are stepping up to support you!!!
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very true Marilyn. Great post!!
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04-07-2007, 03:06 PM
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I know I need to hang on to the friends who have always been around for me, but I really really wish for some girl friends here in my city. The only girl friends I have live hours away and it's so hard sometimes to even get them on the phone because we all have our busy lives. I guess I just jumped the gun with this new girl because I wanted a friend here so badly...
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04-07-2007, 03:08 PM
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Okay so she's talking to me now... she just asked out of nowhere if I'm mad at her. I told her "Honestly, I was pretty upset over the brother thing." I'm going to copy and paste what she said... "k, and that was totally stupid of me to do, ive never done taht before, but he inniciated everything,(which is no excuse) and i feel really bad and i dont wanna lose a friend over that. so IM SOOOOOOOO SORRY. can we still be friends and best friends" I told her it would just be awkward for me to be friends with her and have my brother around and she said "then he doesnt have to be around, come to my place, HAHAHAHA I FINALLY CLEANED IT. and dont feel awkward when your bro is around, hes the only one that should feel awkward. ok, now that we have said that, and your good??????? (send back yes or no)"
I don't know what to do. Give her another chance? Or is it not worth it?
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04-07-2007, 09:32 PM
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She's really upset right now... when we were out on Thursday night somebody texted her and said "Drop to 125 lbs and then we'll talk" and she was so upset and didn't know who it was. Tonight the guy she likes changed his name on msn to "125 lbs max" so it was obviously him and she's really feeling bad... I can't just not talk to her, she needs a friend right now too. Maybe she really is sorry for what happened. I don't know..
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04-08-2007, 02:33 AM
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All people, I think deserve a second chance, but there has to be rules to abide by. Be honest with her and tell her that you do not want to associate with someone that will bring your reputation down. That you like her and want to be friends, but if the rules are broken, so is the friendship.
There should be rules and boundaries in every relationship. Some should be negotiated others are moral and religious and there is no negotiation. It's really up to you Lindsey what you are willing to tolerate.
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04-08-2007, 07:04 AM
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oye...it is so hard to find good friends these days that you dont' have to worry about stuff like this. I cherish the close friends that I do have but I do know how hard it is. I hope things get better for you. You really should consider wether or not this is the kind of friend you want around long term. that is so hard...I'm sorry you are going through this...
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I don't really know if I buy her apology. Being drunk is no excuse for anything, and "he started it" is no excuse for anything. She knew she was at my house, with my brother, and i was the only other person here. Why could she not just say no? And her little "Can we still be friends? best friends?" thing just kind of creeped me out... she keeps calling me her best friend, and she doesn't even know me. I don't know... she's going to call me in an hour to go to her place and see her new bike and have coffee. Should I go?
EDIT: I just asked one of my guy friends about it and he was like "she seems kind of weird, i probably wouldn't talk to her again... borderline psychotic"
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04-08-2007, 10:59 AM
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Lindsey, from the tone of your post, I think you've answered your own question. Girl, it's time to move on.
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