venting

AngieDoogles · 04-09-2007, 04:32 PM

It sounds like you are just so unhappy in this relationship and it doesn't seem like something you want for the rest of your life. Maybe you should have a talk with him and tell him exactly where you stand and what you dislike about the relationship. His reaction would be very insightful and maybe help you to make a good decision about what you want to do. He seems like he could have the potential to become abusive (very needy, keeping you from friends and family, keeping tabs on you at work) and if that is the case you want to be out of that relationship as quickly as possible and never look back. The fact that you work with him and that you have to work there for the next few months makes this situation so much harder, but I know that you are capable of doing whatever needs to be done. You are probably so much stronger than you give yourself credit for. You deserve a full and happy life...just make sure you are with a guy who can give you that. If you are happier being single, then maybe you should think about going that direction with your life. At least for now.

Good luck and we are here if you ever need to vent. We all need an outlet every once in a while.

Lindsey · 04-09-2007, 07:23 PM

I pm'd you. It's tough when you feel unhappy and like there's no way out. You just need to take ahold of your own life and do what you want to do. It's nobody's life to live but your own.

Passionfruition · 04-09-2007, 08:43 PM

I think we've all felt like this at times in our lives....but the good news is, life does get better....even though you feel so trapped right now. I get to feeling overwhelmed with life in general when I don't take enough time off of work, or school (when I was in college) or whatever to do something I enjoyed. I look around my house and see MESSES and want to just crawl back in bed.

You should do something that makes you happy to be you. Do you have any hobbies you enjoy but don't get to do often? Listen to your favorite music, watch your favorite movie. Write a poem! (Well, those are things I do to "recharge" - as I call it.)

Mandy · 04-10-2007, 12:21 AM

You need to seriously talk to him, everyone needs space to do the things you want to do!! You owe it to yourself to be happy with who you are, so find a way and make time to be with family, and friends, they are important people in your life!

Janet · 04-10-2007, 05:39 AM

I am a firm believer that things will never get better unless we are willing to make them better. As far as spending too much time with BF because he expects it....that needs to change quick. You have a life too, and you need to get out from under his thumb 24/7 and nurture you. No one can do that but you.

04-11-2007, 06:01 AM

thanx everyone... i've started going to the gym in the mornings... it helps me get some of the stress out, have some time to myself, and makes me feel better about myself.

Chandra Amaya · 04-11-2007, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by lilstar63100

thanx everyone... i've started going to the gym in the mornings... it helps me get some of the stress out, have some time to myself, and makes me feel better about myself.

Yayyyy!!! good for you.

I'm glad its helping.

rivermom · 04-11-2007, 08:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lilstar63100

thanx everyone... i've started going to the gym in the mornings... it helps me get some of the stress out, have some time to myself, and makes me feel better about myself.

I am so glad you are finding a way to get your stress out. It is truly hard to get stuck into a mentla rut and not really know how to get out of it. I've been there many a times myself.

Please never feel as if you are alone - many of us have experienced what you are going through and of course we are always here to listen.

I' am so happy to hear you are feeling better about yourself. That is really good news!

04-09-2007, 04:32 PM	#1
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	It sounds like you are just so unhappy in this relationship and it doesn't seem like something you want for the rest of your life. Maybe you should have a talk with him and tell him exactly where you stand and what you dislike about the relationship. His reaction would be very insightful and maybe help you to make a good decision about what you want to do. He seems like he could have the potential to become abusive (very needy, keeping you from friends and family, keeping tabs on you at work) and if that is the case you want to be out of that relationship as quickly as possible and never look back. The fact that you work with him and that you have to work there for the next few months makes this situation so much harder, but I know that you are capable of doing whatever needs to be done. You are probably so much stronger than you give yourself credit for. You deserve a full and happy life...just make sure you are with a guy who can give you that. If you are happier being single, then maybe you should think about going that direction with your life. At least for now. Good luck and we are here if you ever need to vent. We all need an outlet every once in a while. __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

04-09-2007, 07:23 PM	#2
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	I pm'd you. It's tough when you feel unhappy and like there's no way out. You just need to take ahold of your own life and do what you want to do. It's nobody's life to live but your own. __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

04-09-2007, 08:43 PM	#3
Passionfruition Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Berlin, Germany Posts: 492	I think we've all felt like this at times in our lives....but the good news is, life does get better....even though you feel so trapped right now. I get to feeling overwhelmed with life in general when I don't take enough time off of work, or school (when I was in college) or whatever to do something I enjoyed. I look around my house and see MESSES and want to just crawl back in bed. You should do something that makes you happy to be you. Do you have any hobbies you enjoy but don't get to do often? Listen to your favorite music, watch your favorite movie. Write a poem! (Well, those are things I do to "recharge" - as I call it.) __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."- Dr. Seuss

04-10-2007, 12:21 AM	#4
Mandy Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Who cares! Posts: 4,587	You need to seriously talk to him, everyone needs space to do the things you want to do!! You owe it to yourself to be happy with who you are, so find a way and make time to be with family, and friends, they are important people in your life! __________________ Many people will walk in and out your life, but only true friends leave footprints!

04-10-2007, 05:39 AM	#5
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I am a firm believer that things will never get better unless we are willing to make them better. As far as spending too much time with BF because he expects it....that needs to change quick. You have a life too, and you need to get out from under his thumb 24/7 and nurture you. No one can do that but you. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

04-11-2007, 06:01 AM	#6
lilstar63100 Guest Posts: n/a	thanx everyone... i've started going to the gym in the mornings... it helps me get some of the stress out, have some time to myself, and makes me feel better about myself.

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