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Old 04-10-2007, 05:59 AM   #1
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Thank you all for your encouragement. I agree, we really need to have more fun together. We both work for ourselves but our companies are intertwined so we just need to get away from it all and have some fun.

thanks again!!!!!!!! I feel a little better today. I will talk to him today about coming up with some ideas.
I'm so glad you are feeling better Toodles! Your husband is a lucky guy to be married to you.
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Old 04-10-2007, 06:03 AM   #2
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I'm so glad you are feeling better Toodles! Your husband is a lucky guy to be married to you.
awww...thanks

you are all right, I will just need to talk to him. and I will. just have to make sure the timing is ok...otherwise it will be a nightmare
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Old 04-10-2007, 06:04 AM   #3
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awww...thanks

you are all right, I will just need to talk to him. and I will. just have to make sure the timing is ok...otherwise it will be a nightmare
Good luck, Toodles! I'm sure everything will go smoothly.
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Old 04-10-2007, 10:28 AM   #4
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Take a few deep breaths, and talk to him Toodles, remind yourself that if you stay calm, you will solve the most. Good luck, we are here for you!
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Old 04-10-2007, 10:40 AM   #5
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This is my experience, the 1st 18 months i was married it seemed like me & my husband were just off. It was like we couldn't agree on anything & everything was not the way I thought it should be. And then one day everything was fine. I don't know what happened. Maybe I finally let go of my preconceived notions of what marriage should be or maybe I gave up on trying to control everything & just went with the flow or maybe I just got used to him. But whatever it was things were awesome after.

We still hit rough patches. I had one two years ago where I was sure I wasn't in love with him anymore, I couldn't stand to look at him. He didn't do anything wrong it was just how I was feeling. I'd been having this feeling for a month & a half when I finally decided to tell him. I went to a friends house to stall & when I came home prepared to tell him I wanted out; everything was fine. I can't explain it, but I looked at him & knew I loved him & that everything would be okay.

These type of feeling happen & you can't explain what's happened to make you feel this way, but you just do. These feeling do pass. You are not alone. If you can't pinpoint exactly whats bothering you then it's probably just fear & anxiety. Try & concentrate on all the wonderful things he does to show he cares. It will make you realize how lucky you are. Also doing nice things for him may make you feel better too.
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Old 04-10-2007, 11:52 AM   #6
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This is my experience, the 1st 18 months i was married it seemed like me & my husband were just off. It was like we couldn't agree on anything & everything was not the way I thought it should be. And then one day everything was fine. I don't know what happened. Maybe I finally let go of my preconceived notions of what marriage should be or maybe I gave up on trying to control everything & just went with the flow or maybe I just got used to him. But whatever it was things were awesome after.

We still hit rough patches. I had one two years ago where I was sure I wasn't in love with him anymore, I couldn't stand to look at him. He didn't do anything wrong it was just how I was feeling. I'd been having this feeling for a month & a half when I finally decided to tell him. I went to a friends house to stall & when I came home prepared to tell him I wanted out; everything was fine. I can't explain it, but I looked at him & knew I loved him & that everything would be okay.

These type of feeling happen & you can't explain what's happened to make you feel this way, but you just do. These feeling do pass. You are not alone. If you can't pinpoint exactly whats bothering you then it's probably just fear & anxiety. Try & concentrate on all the wonderful things he does to show he cares. It will make you realize how lucky you are. Also doing nice things for him may make you feel better too.

this is really great advice. glad I am not alone thank you so much for the encouragement. I do love him...but I have these times when I just can't stand to be around him. sounds like you have been there. I appreciate the kind words...I am sure it will all be fine. I am sure I will get used to the things that bother me now.

NOW...about him smacking his food. That, I CANNOT handle. oye...i have some training to do LOL
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Old 04-10-2007, 01:05 PM   #7
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this is really great advice. glad I am not alone thank you so much for the encouragement. I do love him...but I have these times when I just can't stand to be around him. sounds like you have been there. I appreciate the kind words...I am sure it will all be fine. I am sure I will get used to the things that bother me now.

NOW...about him smacking his food. That, I CANNOT handle. oye...i have some training to do LOL
I always found trades work really well in these situations. Tell him that it really bothers you & see if he can be more mindful. Then ask if there anything you could for him.

However, this might be one of those things you just have to get used to. My husband has this aweful habit of looking at me like I have 3 heads if I don't use the exact right word for something or if I'm recounting a story & I say there were like 500 people there he'll say well it was actually only 495. He knows it drives me up a wall, but he just can't help it; it's part of him, so it may just be something you will have to learn to deal with.
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