I'm so moody!!!!!!!!!!

[toodles]

Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

I'm so glad you are feeling better Toodles! Your husband is a lucky guy to be married to you.

awww...thanks

you are all right, I will just need to talk to him. and I will. just have to make sure the timing is ok...otherwise it will be a nightmare

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by toodles

awww...thanks

you are all right, I will just need to talk to him. and I will. just have to make sure the timing is ok...otherwise it will be a nightmare

Good luck, Toodles! I'm sure everything will go smoothly.

[Mandy]

Take a few deep breaths, and talk to him Toodles, remind yourself that if you stay calm, you will solve the most. Good luck, we are here for you!

[Ponyup]

This is my experience, the 1st 18 months i was married it seemed like me & my husband were just off. It was like we couldn't agree on anything & everything was not the way I thought it should be. And then one day everything was fine. I don't know what happened. Maybe I finally let go of my preconceived notions of what marriage should be or maybe I gave up on trying to control everything & just went with the flow or maybe I just got used to him. But whatever it was things were awesome after.

We still hit rough patches. I had one two years ago where I was sure I wasn't in love with him anymore, I couldn't stand to look at him. He didn't do anything wrong it was just how I was feeling. I'd been having this feeling for a month & a half when I finally decided to tell him. I went to a friends house to stall & when I came home prepared to tell him I wanted out; everything was fine. I can't explain it, but I looked at him & knew I loved him & that everything would be okay.

These type of feeling happen & you can't explain what's happened to make you feel this way, but you just do. These feeling do pass. You are not alone. If you can't pinpoint exactly whats bothering you then it's probably just fear & anxiety. Try & concentrate on all the wonderful things he does to show he cares. It will make you realize how lucky you are. Also doing nice things for him may make you feel better too.

[toodles]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

This is my experience, the 1st 18 months i was married it seemed like me & my husband were just off. It was like we couldn't agree on anything & everything was not the way I thought it should be. And then one day everything was fine. I don't know what happened. Maybe I finally let go of my preconceived notions of what marriage should be or maybe I gave up on trying to control everything & just went with the flow or maybe I just got used to him. But whatever it was things were awesome after.

We still hit rough patches. I had one two years ago where I was sure I wasn't in love with him anymore, I couldn't stand to look at him. He didn't do anything wrong it was just how I was feeling. I'd been having this feeling for a month & a half when I finally decided to tell him. I went to a friends house to stall & when I came home prepared to tell him I wanted out; everything was fine. I can't explain it, but I looked at him & knew I loved him & that everything would be okay.

These type of feeling happen & you can't explain what's happened to make you feel this way, but you just do. These feeling do pass. You are not alone. If you can't pinpoint exactly whats bothering you then it's probably just fear & anxiety. Try & concentrate on all the wonderful things he does to show he cares. It will make you realize how lucky you are. Also doing nice things for him may make you feel better too.

this is really great advice. glad I am not alone thank you so much for the encouragement. I do love him...but I have these times when I just can't stand to be around him. sounds like you have been there. I appreciate the kind words...I am sure it will all be fine. I am sure I will get used to the things that bother me now.

NOW...about him smacking his food. That, I CANNOT handle. oye...i have some training to do LOL

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by toodles

this is really great advice. glad I am not alone thank you so much for the encouragement. I do love him...but I have these times when I just can't stand to be around him. sounds like you have been there. I appreciate the kind words...I am sure it will all be fine. I am sure I will get used to the things that bother me now.

NOW...about him smacking his food. That, I CANNOT handle. oye...i have some training to do LOL

I always found trades work really well in these situations. Tell him that it really bothers you & see if he can be more mindful. Then ask if there anything you could for him.

However, this might be one of those things you just have to get used to. My husband has this aweful habit of looking at me like I have 3 heads if I don't use the exact right word for something or if I'm recounting a story & I say there were like 500 people there he'll say well it was actually only 495. He knows it drives me up a wall, but he just can't help it; it's part of him, so it may just be something you will have to learn to deal with.

[toodles]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

I always found trades work really well in these situations. Tell him that it really bothers you & see if he can be more mindful. Then ask if there anything you could for him.

However, this might be one of those things you just have to get used to. My husband has this aweful habit of looking at me like I have 3 heads if I don't use the exact right word for something or if I'm recounting a story & I say there were like 500 people there he'll say well it was actually only 495. He knows it drives me up a wall, but he just can't help it; it's part of him, so it may just be something you will have to learn to deal with.

we have discussed the food smacking many times and he has asked me to just let him know when he is doing it and he will stop. but dinner time is alwas fun time for us and I hate to ruin it with "honey, you're smacking". just seems like it would ruin his mood. make sense? tonight, at the dinner table, I said "from now on, I'm eating in the living room". He said "why??" I said "because between you and my 6 year old smacking your food, it sounds like a barn in here". he just laughed...but he stopped smacking

i made it like a joke but i was totally serious. I want to say "i will eat in the living room and when the 2 of you learn to eat with your mouth closed, I will come and join you". but that might be a bit harsh, ya think???

it is just so gross to me. and he is the world's worst about shoveling a ton of food in his mouth before he talks. it's like he can't talk without food in his mouth. we will be carrying on a conversation and in the middle of his sentences, he has to take a break to shovel in the food. UGH!!!!!!!!!!! he says he was just raised to "hurry up and eat" but he is 32 years old...he should realize by now that there is no rush...take your time. i think this has a lot to do with why he gaines so much weight...i find if I take my time eating, I get full faster and with less food. he eats so incredibly fast that it is like his body doesn't have the time to realize that food is being taken in. and by the time he is finished, he is so overly stuffed.

ok...i keep going off in 15 directions....sorry thanks for letting me vent