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Old 04-24-2007, 05:11 AM   #1
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Probably not....though it does depend on who it is, I guess. If it were my best friend, I really wouldn't have a problem with it. Even though that might look funny if someone from church saw the two of them sharing a popcorn, LOL.

How about the flipside? Would your husband let you go to a movie with a mutual male friend, alone?
The female is the wife of my friend from high school. We have started spending a lot of time with them as a couple. There is a movie out that i'm really not keen on seeing because i'm afraid it will frighten me & i'm not a big fan of scary movies.

I have a lot of male friends that i have been friends with for ages. However, when it got right down to it, i would not feel comfortable going to movie with them alone anymore. My husband would allow it no questions asked, but i just don't feel right about.

I guess he got a little peeved because when he asked I was like NO way Jose, & he doesn't like being told he can't do something. After we talked & I told him I wasn't comfortable with him or I doing it, he seemed to be more open.

I'm just thinking about the fire thing. It's not that I don't trust him, but I see things way in the future. Like they start doing more stuff together, she becomes his best friend instead of me, I'm left home all alone all the time (my husband really is the only person I do stuff with), & then we have a fight & something bad happens.
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Old 04-24-2007, 05:40 AM   #2
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The female is the wife of my friend from high school. We have started spending a lot of time with them as a couple. There is a movie out that i'm really not keen on seeing because i'm afraid it will frighten me & i'm not a big fan of scary movies.

I have a lot of male friends that i have been friends with for ages. However, when it got right down to it, i would not feel comfortable going to movie with them alone anymore. My husband would allow it no questions asked, but i just don't feel right about.

I guess he got a little peeved because when he asked I was like NO way Jose, & he doesn't like being told he can't do something. After we talked & I told him I wasn't comfortable with him or I doing it, he seemed to be more open.

I'm just thinking about the fire thing. It's not that I don't trust him, but I see things way in the future. Like they start doing more stuff together, she becomes his best friend instead of me, I'm left home all alone all the time (my husband really is the only person I do stuff with), & then we have a fight & something bad happens.
There you go!! You've answered your own question. Why start something that could possibly end up a disaster? Even though you trust him and trust her...you never really know what kind of 'chemistry' could happen...why take the chance.
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Old 04-24-2007, 07:16 AM   #3
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There you go!! You've answered your own question. Why start something that could possibly end up a disaster? Even though you trust him and trust her...you never really know what kind of 'chemistry' could happen...why take the chance.
I just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy or being unreasonable.
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Old 04-24-2007, 08:32 AM   #4
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I just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy or being unreasonable.
I don't think that is unreasonable at all. There are different "rules" when you are married. If you feel uncomfortable with something he should have enough respect for you to not do it. I'm glad you were able to talk it through. That's the best possible thing you could do in that situation.
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If you're not comfortable, don't do it. Marriages follow the rules set only by the 2 people married. I wouldn't worry too much about being considered crazy. When you're stil married in 25 years, it won't make a bit of difference!
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Old 04-24-2007, 10:38 AM   #6
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Well, when the movie 300 came out, I REALLY wanted to go see it but my hubby refused to go see it. Our mutual male friend was all excited about seeing it so we went together. No harm done. In my opinion, you shouldn't deny your hubby the chance to go to a movie he really wants to go see just because you don't want to go see it and the only person he can find to go with is another female. You could make things really simple and just go with him yourself.
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Old 04-24-2007, 11:30 AM   #7
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Well, when the movie 300 came out, I REALLY wanted to go see it but my hubby refused to go see it. Our mutual male friend was all excited about seeing it so we went together. No harm done. In my opinion, you shouldn't deny your hubby the chance to go to a movie he really wants to go see just because you don't want to go see it and the only person he can find to go with is another female. You could make things really simple and just go with him yourself.
Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.
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