Rather complicated

[highlans]

Really she need to have a job that will come with room amd board but as you say if she is not very bright. Would she be any good as say a nanny?.
Good luck with this one.

[Janet]

Tink this is tough!! Check with the school, library and Chamber of Commerce to see what is available to help her. It would help if she would start with her GED. She needs to be given responsiblility and until she is out of your house, give her a list of things that need done. Show her one time and let her do it. She needs to earn her keep. Maybe she could start with a part-time job.

I would think you and her could sit and have a woman to woman talk. I respect you so much Tink that I know you'll be able to aim her in the right direction.

[Tink]

Thanks ladies.
I have tried the local school dist. and they refused to take her since she was 18, not native to the area and we're not her legal guardians. She was doing a correspondence high school, but since she hasn't had money to pay her monthly fees, they've quit sending her work. We can't afford to pay it for her and her parents won't.


I talked this morning with the woman she lived with for the past year. She said Shannon was supposed to have paid rent and helped with housework and such, which she hadn't been doing, so she refuses to take her back either. Shannon and her daughter, who has since moved out to live in a different state, were close friends.

Katie and Shannon have become good friends, so Katie is willing to help her out. Katie has been invited to move in with a male friend who was recently given a house in town, so she said she can ask if they'd mind Shannon moving in too. It's a 5 bedroom house, so is big enough, but of course she'd have to find a job to support herself there too. It would at least be a place for her to live until she can get her self together. I hope it works, but have no clue how it will end. I only know I dread this, as I know it's going to be hard for all of us.

[AngieDoogles]

There are several jobs that I think she might be able to do. Though the pay wouldn't be great, it would be better than nothing. Have you looked into local fast food restaurants like McDonald's. They will probably hire her as a lobby person to clean off tables and sweep and such. She might also be able to work for some kind of housecleaning agency. Or maybe a grocery store. Good luck Tink. This sounds like a very difficult position for you and your son to be in. I hope everything works out alright.

[Janet]

I too want to wish you the best of luck. I know this has to be so hard for you. But she's old enough to start taking some responsibility for herself. She's still young, but when you have to step up to the plate, sometimes it's the best thing to help one grow up a little bit.

I also wanted to add that besides the fast food industry, there are motels that need service people, places like Village Pantry, gas station clerks, floral shops need people to help plant and transplant, there are soooo many places she could go and be successful.

[AngieDoogles]

I just thought of another possibility. Is there a modeling agency in your city that you know of? You mentioned that she is pretty, so I'm sure they would be able to use her and she'd probably enjoy it.

[Mandy]

That is a tough situation to be in. My thoughts & prayers are with you Tink, and i hope this will be sorted out very soon!