Not going to believe this one!!

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{{{Janet}}} I didn't mean to make you feel bad. I'm very sorry if I did.

There's no reason you should have to hide how you're feeling from me or anyone else. I didn't mean that at all. I just wish you could be happy because I know you're a really nice lady and deserve to be content.

As I said, I don't have any magic cure, but I do believe God does. I do plan to pray for you. I HAVE been where you're at... maybe not the exact same situations, but much the same level of dissatisfaction. I know it's no way to live.

[DianaB]

Janet, the book that I mentioned in another thread, the Five Love Languages, is one that you should probably read. When I got it I cried through two whole chapters because they really spoke about what I was feeling. Basically it says that there are 5 ways for your spouse to let you know that they love you and if they're not reaching you in the way that you need then you're not feeling loved.

It sounds like your husband, like my own, isn't meeting your needs. My husband is a wonderful man who loves me very much, but my need is quality time, and he fails in that area. When I look back over the years I've always felt that he never had time for me alone. In every other area he's been wonderful, but those things aren't what has made me feel loved. He's reading the book and I'm trying to communicate (my biggest problem, I don't communicate when I'm upset). I'm hoping that things will definitely improve. It hasn't been a very good marriage in my opinion for quite a while, but he didn't see that we had any problems.

I recommend the book only if you and your husband can get together and discuss it. Maybe it will help you to understand what is important to the other and things will improve for you too.

[Janet]

Thank you Diana.

[AngieDoogles]

Here is the link for The Five Love Languages. http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

There is a quiz there that helps you determine for sure what your love language is and from there it is easier to meet each others' needs. Brendon and I both have a copy of this book, so if anyone would like me to send you a copy, just PM me and I'd be happy to.

Like Diana, I highly recommend reading this book with your spouse. It's an amazing and enlightening experience. I feel that my marriage has been much better than it would have if we hadn't learned those concepts.

[judy]

Dear Janet,

I'm so sorry that you're not happy now. I wasn't happy during my last marriage either and when that ended, even with the other issues I have in my life, I learned that I am always happy. It's just the way I'm made.

Look deep inside and see if you can get in touch with that happy part of you. When you find it, and feel it, just go with it. Nobody can take that from you.

I'm sending you prayers and hugs,

Judy

[Mandy]

We just dont "get it" at times, as they dont "get it" with us, but i agree with you Janet, theres absolutly no use in making up a soiled bed, it would have been a lot easier if he had taken all the bedding off, and told you it was in the washing machine, thats what my husband would have done.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Mandy

We just dont "get it" at times, as they dont "get it" with us, but i agree with you Janet, theres absolutly no use in making up a soiled bed, it would have been a lot easier if he had taken all the bedding off, and told you it was in the washing machine, thats what my husband would have done.

Sounds like you have a good man Mandy!!