we are fighting!!!!

[Janet]

I agree totally with everyone. You can respect your mothers feelings and ideas, but ultimately it is your responsiblity to do what you feel is best. It is so easy for others to judge when they don't actually live day to day in another family. We all have different ideas, but doesn't make either one wrong, just different. I know my mother is the same way in everything. I've learned through the years to pick and choose what I tell her. I think from now on it should be a lesson learned that when it comes to something personal like this.. we should just go ahead and do what we feel is best and let the grandparents grow old gracefully.......

[RLC12345678]

I would not worry about what your mother thinks. Things have changed so much since you were young and your mother was raising you. My grandmother (my mom's mom) always gives my mom a hard time about how she is raising us. My grandmother even called me a SLUT one time! But, we realize that she is old fashioned so we just ignore her. Don't worry about it! Just tell your mom that you respect her opinion, but things are different now. Don't make a big deal about it and your mom will soon drop it.

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

I would not worry about what your mother thinks. Things have changed so much since you were young and your mother was raising you. My grandmother (my mom's mom) always gives my mom a hard time about how she is raising us. My grandmother even called me a SLUT one time! But, we realize that she is old fashioned so we just ignore her. Don't worry about it! Just tell your mom that you respect her opinion, but things are different now. Don't make a big deal about it and your mom will soon drop it.

OMG!!! i would have old her to wash her mouth out with ivory soap and stuck my nose up in the air and said "real ladies don't speak like that!!!" i love to be a back-sasser!!! how old were you at the time? and what did your mom say to her when she said it??? poor baby.....

[Amber_lv]

Well she is your child and mothers have a way of being to nosey and controlling about this stuff you know giving a suggestion is fine but in the end it's your decision! Shaving her legs is not going to lead to sex i started shaving very early and it wasn't a sexual thing i was sick of the hair! Just kindly remind her who carried your daughter for 9 months and pushed her out she raised you now you must raise your own. Good luck and don't feel bad

theres nothing wrong with that i think most girls start shaving at that age

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Amber_lv

Well she is your child and mothers have a way of being to nosey and controlling about this stuff you know giving a suggestion is fine but in the end it's your decision! Shaving her legs is not going to lead to sex i started shaving very early and it wasn't a sexual thing i was sick of the hair! Just kindly remind her who carried your daughter for 9 months and pushed her out she raised you now you must raise your own. Good luck and don't feel bad

I agree! Mothers tend to be controlling and very nosey!

I'm sure my Mother would love to be a fly on my walls LOL

[magnolia]

There's nothing more I can add to what has already been written. As stated, she is YOUR daughter and YOU make the decisions you feel are in the best interest of her and yourself. I guess I was kinda lucky with my mom - she was the only girl with 3 older brothers so, despite the era she grew up in (late 40's early 50's), she is laid back - and she was a preacher's wife!!! (my dad passed away almost 22 years ago). And with me and my sisters being PK's (preacher's kids), we were not raised in an extremely strict house. Oh, we knew the rules and obeyed them - most of the time - but we were good kids. My mom was the one to suggest to me and my younger sister on getting our ears pierced! I was 11 and my younger sister was 9 and her mom paid for it (was our christmas present from her)!!! I shaved my legs at age 11 or 12, can't remember exactly but know it was around that time. Back then, there were no special kits or razors so I experienced MANY cuts and nicks. Oh, and my mom bought my first make-up when I was 13 and I hadn't even asked for any - it was just powder and blush but I felt so proud By doing what you did for your daughter in letting her start shaving, you've shown her you understand HER feelings at this point in her life - you've not "forbidden" anything and in my opinion, you're keeping those lines of communication open between the two of you which is missing with a lot of kids today. Keep your head held high - as long as you feel you did the right thing, then you did!!

[BabyNicole]

I don't think shaving your legs young and having sex are related to one another. Tell Mom to show you the research!

[Emmsmom]

I agree with the others. This is YOUR child. Times have changed in a MAJOR way and so have the kids. The girls are growing up and blossoming out at a much faster rate these days. She raised you and now it is your turn to raise your own child. I know it can't be easy tho. I go through the same thing with my grandmother. She is always saying that even tho my DD is a very good child there are still certain things she shouldn't be allowed to do. Oh well i just i hear ya and go on about my business. I would love to say it will get better but it probably won't. Just wait till ourDD's grow up and have kids of their own. I can see us doing the same thing. LOL Take care.

michelle

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by ice queen

OMG!!! i would have old her to wash her mouth out with ivory soap and stuck my nose up in the air and said "real ladies don't speak like that!!!" i love to be a back-sasser!!! how old were you at the time? and what did your mom say to her when she said it??? poor baby.....

Oh, I was 18. My grandmother is just plain mean. My mom is SOOOO laid back and we are used to her being mean. We just laugh and shrug it off. Nothing she says surprises us anymore.