How do I tell him??

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Gina

The point I am trying to relay to you is that yes becoming heavy can turn off someone sexually, but put yourself in his place. If you were the one gaining the weight and he didn't want to be intimate with you how would you feel?. It is hard to lose weight, maybe you should motivate him, like some suggested. Walk with him after dinner, cook differently change his eating habits, he is not a child but men usually need to be led by the hand. As I mentioned in the begining I think there are other issues here and you are not being honest with yourself. I can be wrong and I hope that I am, reading your past posts I think there is more than you are admitting... Regardless I think you should talk to him and express your feelings. Good luck

Good comment, Gina. I was going to make about the same remark. How would you feel if the tables were turned and it was you who had gained the weight? Work with him and find a solution that works for you two. Remember that there's more to a person than just the packaging.

To be honest, if you have tried hinting, cooking better, and suggesting working out together, I think it's now time to just tell the truth. I think you not wanting to be intimate with him is probably hurting his feelings more than just telling him that you just don't feel as sexually attracted to him as you once were before he gained weight. I am a firm believer in honesty, even if its a little brutal. It serves no one good to beat around the bush. You'd be surprisd at how well people can take the truth sometimes. Maybe it's something he already knows and feels but doesn't want to admit.