Is it just me or......

I do all the cooking and cleaning but my Husband pays the bills. He has his own Courier company and i work for him. i drive for him one day a week and do all his billing

[hle_625]

Originally Posted by lisa

I do all the cooking and cleaning but my Husband pays the bills. He has his own Courier company and i work for him. i drive for him one day a week and do all his billing

Oh yeah, cooking is another thing I can add to my list of things to do!

[magnolia]

I must be one of the lucky ones. Sam will help with the housework (although he doesn't clean the tubs!) - he will vacuum, scrub toilets, wash/dry/AND fold clothes, will help in bathing the furbabies, and he does the yard work. I will do all the dusting and scrubbing of tubs, sweeping and mopping. He will also get the boys do various appointments and activities if I'm at a point with work where I can't do it. I guess his cleaning comes from working at the fire station - they have to keep the station virtually spotless at all times! We share with the cooking - sometimes I'll come in from work and he's got dinner started and our rule is, whoever cooks, the other cleans the kitchen and it works great

My husband is pretty good with helping out, now if I could just get the kids to help out w/out complaining!

[Janet]

Mine doesn't do anything!!!! Okay, so I may have exaggerated a little. I'm picky, so it is probably all my fault, everything else is....LOL Anyway, he takes out the trash when told to, helps son mow the yard, but I can get it done in 2 1/2 hours and it takes him darn near all day. Rides for awhile, piddles in the garage, rides for awhile, piddles some more. Drives me crazy. If I leave a list, he'll do it, but it may take a week or two. Our biggest problem in all honesty is probably me. I want things done right and he does things just to get them done. When we first got married, I wanted to be the perfect little housewife and take care of things so I just trained him wrong. Good thing I believe marriage is forever (he does too), or else I would have been gone a long time ago. We manage, and I am not without my faults (although few...LOL). Most of the time it's not so bad.

[Marilyn]

It's not just you, we do it all. I think we are wired that way.

Actually my husband and I split the bill paying responsibility, he has someone mow the lawn for us, he pitches in and helps with the dishes from time to time, and takes the trash out once in a while. Occassionally he will vacuum, or do laundry. I don't like the way he does things though. Leaves water on the counter and floor when he does dishes. He doesn't hang up the laundry right, or fold correctly. I used to be very picky, but over the years, it's like who cares. As long as we are healthy, happy, and it gets done, hey we're okay.

We both work at stressful, but rewarding jobs. All in all, even though he helps, I do most of it, while he is surfing on the net, piddling with a car he's rebuilding, or relaxing. But, it could be worse. Bottom line, he's loving & faithful and my very best friend.

[hle_625]

Im glad to see that I'm not the only one! He is the greatest guy though. And he does work all day unlike me, I spend my 40 hours of work on yorkietalk and now 4womentalk! LOL! So I guess I can handle the housework!

I'm not married, nor engaged, nor living with my bf.. yet. I am 'grooming' him so that I don't end up with the kind of husband that my father is. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE my dad and I know he loves my mom and he takes really good care of her. But, she's the housewife and he's the moneymaker. My mom has worked many jobs over the years but hasnt for the past 10 years or so due to an illness that is causing her to lose her eyesight. As far back as I can remember, even when my mom was working she still had to do everything around the house (my brother and I helped a great deal). We have a framed picture of my dad doing the dishes in the kitchen at my parents house - to commemorate the occasion - that picture was taken about 4 years ago now, and I don't think I've seen him do the dishes since, lol.

Anyways, my current bf, should we end up together down the road, is really good about sharing responsibilities. We don't even live together, but when he spends the weekend, he'll do the dishes for me, he helps me bath the dogs, he drives me around town to run errands, he'll pick up groceries for me.... he's pretty great. Husband potential? Perhaps...

[Sherry Lynn]

You sound like me and hubby, Marilyn.

We have someone come in and clean and someone do the yard work so that's a load off my mind. I hate to spend weekends scrubbing toilets!

We have been together for 20 years, and we made a pact early on that he would do laundry and I would take care of the kitchen and cooking. Since I love to cook and HATE to do laundry it works out great! Especially since these days we hardly ever eat at home!

Does he fold, hang and put things away the same way that I would? NO! But I'm with you.. as long as it gets done I don't care. I used to go into the linen closet and rearrange everything behind him, but I gave up on that years ago. If someone knows me well enough to be in my linen closet, I figure they know me enough not to hold it against me.

Like my Grandma used to always say..."As long as it's clean and paid for..."

Originally Posted by magnolia

wash/dry/AND fold clothes

I loved that you capitolized the word AND, my hubby will throw the clothes in the laundry, move to the dryer, and leave them there. Then expect credit for doing laundry!

Seriously, 15 years ago I would have posted similarly to you, but now he doesn't do anything. I'm not sure where I went wrong!

Oh, and I guess I'm lucky, he doesn't expect me to do anything. He'd be happy living in a mess and never eating a meal. I just can't wallow in muck.

[RLC12345678]

Sometimes I just PREFER to do most of the chores around the house. Usually when my hubby does it, it is a half a$$ job or just not done correctly. My philosophy, if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself.

[Mandy]

My husband cleans the kitchen and fills up the dishwasher after dinner, i wouldnt dream of asking him to do the laundry, i can only imagine what the clothes will look like after they done LOL
He will vacuum when he feels like it, but that aint too often

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Mandy

My husband cleans the kitchen and fills up the dishwasher after dinner, i wouldnt dream of asking him to do the laundry, i can only imagine what the clothes will look like after they done LOL
He will vacuum when he feels like it, but that aint too often

I don't think my husband knows where the washer, dryer and sweeper are...

[Janet]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Sometimes I just PREFER to do most of the chores around the house. Usually when my hubby does it, it is a half a$$ job or just not done correctly. My philosophy, if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself.

It's not that I PREFER doing most the chores, but you're right, mine does it half A$$ too! Many years ago, we separated for a very short time. When I came back the place was so dirty! I don't mean things lying around, I mean dirty. There were mouse turds everywhere including his underwear drawer. SO FREAK'N GROSS!!!!! I will get help if I ask, but why should I have to...he is not blind and can see what needs done. I am so afraid something will happen to me and my son will have to live like that.