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[Mandy]

Most of us know what that feels like. It can be very challenging for a relationship with a baby. I'm sorry you are going through this, but give yourself time, in the end, it all comes right again... and all of these "horrible" moments are forgotten, as your daughter grows, you will start having more time to share with each other.
You have come to the right place to vent, vent all you want here, we are all here for you.

[AngieDoogles]

Aww, I'm sorry things are frustrating. All of us go through things like that in our marriage. My husband, no matter how much I love him or he loves me, is a computer geek. Completely. LOL. He could spend hours and HOURS working on code for a new program or on his "UBUNTU" forums...leaving me to get my socializing from here or my friends in real life. The thing that makes it okay for us is that I tell him when I'm feeling lonely or neglected and then he tries extra hard to be there for me. I think that kind of communication and effort on both parts is key. It makes those feelings of loneliness or frustration a few isolated instances rather than just a way of life.

I don't have children so I can't even begin to understand how much that complicates your situation and how you feel, so I will leave it to the mothers to give advice about that part.

I hope you feel better!

[goofywife]

I am sorry you guys are so stressed. Please remember that best thing you can do for your daugther is to take care of your marriage. You have to have that "couple" time.

Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

He could spend hours and HOURS working on code for a new program or on his "UBUNTU" forums...leaving me to get my socializing from here or my friends in real life.

Same here. This UBUNTU creap!!!! how i hate it!
I am trying my best to be as patient as possible. I let him work, coz thats important too. But all the time??? THAT is a lil too much. Still i havent complained about it till now. Hope he himself realises what i am going through one fine day.
Why do men start taking us for granted soon after marriage? He was NEVER ever like this before marriage. I used to be his first priority. But not anymore... Such a bitter bitter bitter bitter truth!

[Mandy]

Dextress, be open with him, men dont think anything is wrong unless you tell them. Tell him, you feel neglected, and want more of hes time. Go out, and do things together, find a baby sitter for your daughter, find things that will bring back that "spark"

Oh! thats the worst part u see. He knows everything...how i feel n all. but simply no improvement. His daughter n his work have the most importance.
I am leaving everything on time. Hope that helps.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by dextress

Oh! thats the worst part u see. He knows everything...how i feel n all. but simply no improvement. His daughter n his work have the most importance.
I am leaving everything on time. Hope that helps.

Maybe you could write him a letter and really pour your heart out to him. Sometimes our men don't realize the importance of what we say to them, but if you wrote a letter, you could really highlight what the problem is and how it makes you feel.

hmmm..
that sounds interesting.
will muster the courage sometime soon n do that.

[judy]

Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

Maybe you could write him a letter and really pour your heart out to him. Sometimes our men don't realize the importance of what we say to them, but if you wrote a letter, you could really highlight what the problem is and how it makes you feel.

That's how I do it when talking gets me nowhere. A letter can be read alone and the reactions aren't bounced off on you. He can absorb what you say in his own time, and then when you do talk about it, there's a lot less defensiveness and, hopefully more communication.

It also does take time to get accustomed to babies, and real life. Marriage is a lot of work and has lots of ups and downs. Relax and enjoy the baby. Let him do what he needs to do for a while. You'll never have this time with the baby again. They grow so fast. You can talk to him any time!

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