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judy · 10-08-2007, 05:06 PM

Thanks y'all! I decided that the best way to move on is to forgive her and love her
no matter what.

This is no easy task....but I have about 30 years at least to get to that point.

Thanks for your prayers that we do reconcile. Then I wouldn't have to all this closure, forgiveness, etc. stuff. Seriously, that is really what I want. I do love her and I love my grandchildren, plus she's got a serious illness and I want to help her.

Sometimes I wonder why God decided that I have to be so strong. I wish he would have asked me first! I would have said "oh, no, no. no....thanks anyway."

katepoet · 10-16-2007, 05:38 PM

Hi Judy
Just some thoughts about MS. Did you know that NIH is doing a huge study on whether it is really late stage Lyme disease? Do you know that Lyme triggers over 300 immune system disorders and can make people grumpy and uncommunicative? Three people I know had MS go into remission with treatment for Lyme. Lyme is contagious - no tick bite required. (My son got it in-utero from me.)

Maybe your daughter's illness is causing her inability to communicate and her view of the world. If you think of it as part of her illness, maybe it is less personal.

Kate

judy · 10-17-2007, 06:36 AM

Hi Kate,

Welcome to 4WT. It's good to have you here.

I did not know that MS is possibly late stage Lyme Disease. Thank you for your compassionate perspective. I do hold the fact that she is ill and frightened, and tired, and more than likely overwhelmed, in my heart.

In fact, from, what I hear she is doing quite well lately and I am really proud of her
for overcomimg all of these obstacles.

I have to be honest though and say that she still has broken my heart - what can I tell you - I'm human.

Life is a very interesting process!

Judy

katepoet · 10-17-2007, 07:18 AM

More on Lyme, it can be the cause behind almost every diagnosis in the PDM - the Psychiatric Diagnostic Manual. It can trigger phobias, bi-polar, ADHD, ADD, autism... the list goes on.

When I have a problem with someone's attitude, I try to think "She or he has a undiagnosed or untreated illness." It still hurts with the ones I love when they reject me but it helps me keep things in perspective.

10-08-2007, 05:06 PM	#1
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Thanks y'all! I decided that the best way to move on is to forgive her and love her no matter what. This is no easy task....but I have about 30 years at least to get to that point. Thanks for your prayers that we do reconcile. Then I wouldn't have to all this closure, forgiveness, etc. stuff. Seriously, that is really what I want. I do love her and I love my grandchildren, plus she's got a serious illness and I want to help her. Sometimes I wonder why God decided that I have to be so strong. I wish he would have asked me first! I would have said "oh, no, no. no....thanks anyway." __________________ *Judy*

10-17-2007, 06:36 AM	#3
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Hi Kate, Welcome to 4WT. It's good to have you here. I did not know that MS is possibly late stage Lyme Disease. Thank you for your compassionate perspective. I do hold the fact that she is ill and frightened, and tired, and more than likely overwhelmed, in my heart. In fact, from, what I hear she is doing quite well lately and I am really proud of her for overcomimg all of these obstacles. I have to be honest though and say that she still has broken my heart - what can I tell you - I'm human. Life is a very interesting process! Judy __________________ *Judy*

10-16-2007, 05:38 PM	#2
katepoet Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 992	Hi Judy Just some thoughts about MS. Did you know that NIH is doing a huge study on whether it is really late stage Lyme disease? Do you know that Lyme triggers over 300 immune system disorders and can make people grumpy and uncommunicative? Three people I know had MS go into remission with treatment for Lyme. Lyme is contagious - no tick bite required. (My son got it in-utero from me.) Maybe your daughter's illness is causing her inability to communicate and her view of the world. If you think of it as part of her illness, maybe it is less personal. Kate

10-17-2007, 07:18 AM	#4
katepoet Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 992	More on Lyme, it can be the cause behind almost every diagnosis in the PDM - the Psychiatric Diagnostic Manual. It can trigger phobias, bi-polar, ADHD, ADD, autism... the list goes on. When I have a problem with someone's attitude, I try to think "She or he has a undiagnosed or untreated illness." It still hurts with the ones I love when they reject me but it helps me keep things in perspective.

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