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judy · 10-21-2007, 10:52 AM

Angie,

You can want him to do it because he loves you enough all you want. Not that you're wrong, but you may have to help him out to get him there.

We all know Brendon loves you. It's time for a sit down and a long talk on why he's late, and how can you help him. I agree with Kate on this one. Things like habitual lateness are usually more complicated than meets the eye.

AngieDoogles · 10-21-2007, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by judy

Angie,

You can want him to do it because he loves you enough all you want. Not that you're wrong, but you may have to help him out to get him there.

We all know Brendon loves you. It's time for a sit down and a long talk on why he's late, and how can you help him. I agree with Kate on this one. Things like habitual lateness are usually more complicated than meets the eye.

We've talked about it SO many times. It has nothing to do with a need to be independent or anything else like that. It's always just that he "forgets" or doesn't have everything together or needs to brush his teeth...or something. Being on time just isn't a high priority for him like it is for me. But you know, I really have a lot of other things to be thankful for so I should just learn to let it go when he's late.

judy · 10-22-2007, 08:10 AM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

We've talked about it SO many times. It has nothing to do with a need to be independent or anything else like that. It's always just that he "forgets" or doesn't have everything together or needs to brush his teeth...or something. Being on time just isn't a high priority for him like it is for me. But you know, I really have a lot of other things to be thankful for so I should just learn to let it go when he's late.

If you can - it be too high a priority for you to just let it go, but if not, he is a
wonderful young man, and a great husband.

You can also spend the entire rest of your married life fighting about it. It might really be too important for you to let go. Anyway, make-up sex is fun.

Tink · 10-22-2007, 08:51 AM

My dh too is one who is habitually late. HOWEVER he drives semi and is almost never late with a delivery....

In our case, I feel it's passive aggression. He resents being expected to go ANYWHERE on his rare days off and this is his way of making sure people know it. When he gets home the last thing he wants to do is to go anywhere else! Aftr 25 yrs together I've learned to just go by myself ON TIME if it's tht important, or not get upset with him if he makes us late. Sometimes you just have to pick your battles, and 25 yrs is too long to keep fighting over anything that's not life threatening.

AngieDoogles · 10-22-2007, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Tink

My dh too is one who is habitually late. HOWEVER he drives semi and is almost never late with a delivery....

In our case, I feel it's passive aggression. He resents being expected to go ANYWHERE on his rare days off and this is his way of making sure people know it. When he gets home the last thing he wants to do is to go anywhere else! Aftr 25 yrs together I've learned to just go by myself ON TIME if it's tht important, or not get upset with him if he makes us late. Sometimes you just have to pick your battles, and 25 yrs is too long to keep fighting over anything that's not life threatening.

Thanks for the advice Tink. I agree that it is important to pick your battles and I try really hard to not be upset when he's late, but I'm human and I make mistakes as well. I'll just have to remind myself that if it isn't life threatening, it isn't worth fighting over. That's a great way to look at it! Thanks!

katepoet · 10-22-2007, 10:54 PM

As hard as it is for me - I feel lonely - I go a lot of places alone. I still want to interact more with the world but my husband is burned out. I am waiting for when things fall into place again but... So he can't make me late if he's not going

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AngieDoogles · 10-22-2007, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by judy

If you can - it be too high a priority for you to just let it go, but if not, he is a
wonderful young man, and a great husband.

You can also spend the entire rest of your married life fighting about it. It might really be too important for you to let go. Anyway, make-up sex is fun.

LOL Judy! I would agree with that, but my mom is on this forum too, and you know what that means? I don't have sex! I'm her sweet and innocent little girl. Right?

Mandy · 10-23-2007, 01:38 AM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

LOL Judy! I would agree with that, but my mom is on this forum too, and you know what that means? I don't have sex! I'm her sweet and innocent little girl. Right?

This made me giggle LOL ~ i know what you mean, my son came from the cabbage patch LMAO

AngieDoogles · 10-23-2007, 07:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Mandy

This made me giggle LOL ~ i know what you mean, my son came from the cabbage patch LMAO

When we eventually have babies, that's going to be my excuse too!

judy · 10-23-2007, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

LOL Judy! I would agree with that, but my mom is on this forum too, and you know what that means? I don't have sex! I'm her sweet and innocent little girl. Right?

Did I say sex? I'm so sorry - I really meant to type in "make-up scrabble."

A senior moment!

katepoet · 10-23-2007, 09:49 AM

I vote for baby making sex over making up sex any day! That cabbage patch can be a little uncomfortable but on a clear day...

AngieDoogles · 10-23-2007, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by judy

Did I say sex? I'm so sorry - I really meant to type in "make-up scrabble."

A senior moment!

Ah, thanks for clearing that up Judy. Now Mom can just ignore the past few posts, right?

Boy do I love Scrabble!!!

judy · 10-23-2007, 02:54 PM

Great game! Especially after a fight - relieves the tension.

Forgivenmom5 · 10-23-2007, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

LOL Judy! I would agree with that, but my mom is on this forum too, and you know what that means? I don't have sex! I'm her sweet and innocent little girl. Right?

That's right and in my mind she's going to stay that way.

judy · 10-24-2007, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Forgivenmom5

That's right and in my mind she's going to stay that way.

Of course she is!

10-21-2007, 10:52 AM	#1
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Angie, You can want him to do it because he loves you enough all you want. Not that you're wrong, but you may have to help him out to get him there. We all know Brendon loves you. It's time for a sit down and a long talk on why he's late, and how can you help him. I agree with Kate on this one. Things like habitual lateness are usually more complicated than meets the eye. __________________ *Judy*

10-22-2007, 08:51 AM	#4
Tink Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Rural Wisconsin Posts: 3,707	My dh too is one who is habitually late. HOWEVER he drives semi and is almost never late with a delivery.... In our case, I feel it's passive aggression. He resents being expected to go ANYWHERE on his rare days off and this is his way of making sure people know it. When he gets home the last thing he wants to do is to go anywhere else! Aftr 25 yrs together I've learned to just go by myself ON TIME if it's tht important, or not get upset with him if he makes us late. Sometimes you just have to pick your battles, and 25 yrs is too long to keep fighting over anything that's not life threatening. __________________ 'A simple way to take measure of a country is to look at how many want in.. And how many want out.' England 's Prime Minister Tony Blair'

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judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Great game! Especially after a fight - relieves the tension. __________________ *Judy*

10-22-2007, 10:54 PM	#6
katepoet Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 992	As hard as it is for me - I feel lonely - I go a lot of places alone. I still want to interact more with the world but my husband is burned out. I am waiting for when things fall into place again but... So he can't make me late if he's not going .

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katepoet Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 992	I vote for baby making sex over making up sex any day! That cabbage patch can be a little uncomfortable but on a clear day...

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