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Janet · 10-24-2007, 06:15 AM

Sheryl's right. I would probably make other arrangements for dog sitting. It is very upsetting when you feel you're being taken advantage of, by people not showing up on time or even bothering to let you know.

katepoet · 10-24-2007, 07:23 AM

If your friends aren't reliable maybe you are not picking the right friends for you. Plus, if you are such a responsible friend, you may be overdoing your part - or you need to find friends more like you. I always find dropping a friend hard to do, but it makes room in your life for new people. If I wait for awhile, without new or old friends, then I am more ready to connect with new people who are healthier for me.

Did you offer to take the dog? I find I have to bite my tongue a lot as my tendency to want to help can put me over my limit in what I can handle pretty quickly. There's nothing like doing too much for someone to ruin a friendship of any kind. It puts things out of balance, tips the scale too far and I can end up resentful.

Mandy · 10-24-2007, 11:24 AM

That sure is frustrating, next time you can tell her to look for a good boarding facility, and take her dog there. It's not good if your friend is taking advantage of you that way, the least she could have done, was let YOU know they would be late, it's not your duty to run after her, you are doing her the favor here.

DianaB · 10-24-2007, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Mandy

That sure is frustrating, next time you can tell her to look for a good boarding facility, and take her dog there. It's not good if your friend is taking advantage of you that way, the least she could have done, was let YOU know they would be late, it's not your duty to run after her, you are doing her the favor here.

I agree. Also, I would find someone else to watch your dog so you don't feel that you have to watch hers. She definitely took advantage of you!

Marilyn · 10-25-2007, 04:01 AM

Sounds to me like she is young and her boyfriend is perhaps the irresponsible one. She may be urging him to be home on time, and he's the one causing the delays. She may be reluctant to contact you because she's embarassed and she may be hoping her bf will get it together and she won't be that late afterall. Sounds like her 2 am estimate was hopeful thinking.

Be careful of boarding facilities. We've not had good luck with them, even the ones that look clean and responsible. Our trip to Europe cost us another approx. $800 in vet bills when we got home and had 3 sick dogs to contend with. Not to mention the extra work caused by their illnesses and the emotional fustration and fears for their health. This is the third time they have come home sick from different facilities.

Next time, we may try to find a friend who can help us and avoid boarding. The benefits of not putting your pets in a boarding situation may outweigh the inconveniences you are dealing with now.

Hope they get home soon!!!

AngieDoogles · 10-26-2007, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Marilyn

Sounds to me like she is young and her boyfriend is perhaps the irresponsible one. She may be urging him to be home on time, and he's the one causing the delays. She may be reluctant to contact you because she's embarassed and she may be hoping her bf will get it together and she won't be that late afterall. Sounds like her 2 am estimate was hopeful thinking.

Be careful of boarding facilities. We've not had good luck with them, even the ones that look clean and responsible. Our trip to Europe cost us another approx. $800 in vet bills when we got home and had 3 sick dogs to contend with. Not to mention the extra work caused by their illnesses and the emotional fustration and fears for their health. This is the third time they have come home sick from different facilities.

Next time, we may try to find a friend who can help us and avoid boarding. The benefits of not putting your pets in a boarding situation may outweigh the inconveniences you are dealing with now.

Hope they get home soon!!!

I agree with Marilyn. It could definitely be the boyfriend causing the problems, especially if you've never had this kind of thing happen before in your friendship. Is there anyone else who could take care of your dog if you have to go out of town? Sounds like a boarding facility might not be a good option either, but if you had another friend or relative care for your dog, your friendship with this person might be less strained. Good luck!

judy · 10-26-2007, 05:52 PM

It is a rough one - because you may have to board your dogs, but I agree with Sheryl.

Whenever I find myself resenting somebody's actions, I don't do whatever it is anymore. The trick is to do it as nicely as possible if you want to maintain the friendship, and because she works for you.

I hope she comes back soon!

10-24-2007, 06:15 AM	#1
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	Sheryl's right. I would probably make other arrangements for dog sitting. It is very upsetting when you feel you're being taken advantage of, by people not showing up on time or even bothering to let you know. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

10-24-2007, 11:24 AM	#3
Mandy Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Who cares! Posts: 4,587	That sure is frustrating, next time you can tell her to look for a good boarding facility, and take her dog there. It's not good if your friend is taking advantage of you that way, the least she could have done, was let YOU know they would be late, it's not your duty to run after her, you are doing her the favor here. __________________ Many people will walk in and out your life, but only true friends leave footprints!

10-25-2007, 04:01 AM	#5
Marilyn Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Texas Posts: 4,907	Sounds to me like she is young and her boyfriend is perhaps the irresponsible one. She may be urging him to be home on time, and he's the one causing the delays. She may be reluctant to contact you because she's embarassed and she may be hoping her bf will get it together and she won't be that late afterall. Sounds like her 2 am estimate was hopeful thinking. Be careful of boarding facilities. We've not had good luck with them, even the ones that look clean and responsible. Our trip to Europe cost us another approx. $800 in vet bills when we got home and had 3 sick dogs to contend with. Not to mention the extra work caused by their illnesses and the emotional fustration and fears for their health. This is the third time they have come home sick from different facilities. Next time, we may try to find a friend who can help us and avoid boarding. The benefits of not putting your pets in a boarding situation may outweigh the inconveniences you are dealing with now. Hope they get home soon!!! __________________ Marilyn If anyone would like a free Bible Study CD or book entitled "Searching for Truth", PM me with your mailing address and I'll send you one. "And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free." John 8:32

10-26-2007, 05:52 PM	#7
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	It is a rough one - because you may have to board your dogs, but I agree with Sheryl. Whenever I find myself resenting somebody's actions, I don't do whatever it is anymore. The trick is to do it as nicely as possible if you want to maintain the friendship, and because she works for you. I hope she comes back soon! __________________ *Judy*

10-24-2007, 07:23 AM	#2
katepoet Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 992	If your friends aren't reliable maybe you are not picking the right friends for you. Plus, if you are such a responsible friend, you may be overdoing your part - or you need to find friends more like you. I always find dropping a friend hard to do, but it makes room in your life for new people. If I wait for awhile, without new or old friends, then I am more ready to connect with new people who are healthier for me. Did you offer to take the dog? I find I have to bite my tongue a lot as my tendency to want to help can put me over my limit in what I can handle pretty quickly. There's nothing like doing too much for someone to ruin a friendship of any kind. It puts things out of balance, tips the scale too far and I can end up resentful.

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