Aaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Mandy

That sure is frustrating, next time you can tell her to look for a good boarding facility, and take her dog there. It's not good if your friend is taking advantage of you that way, the least she could have done, was let YOU know they would be late, it's not your duty to run after her, you are doing her the favor here.

I agree. Also, I would find someone else to watch your dog so you don't feel that you have to watch hers. She definitely took advantage of you!

[Marilyn]

Sounds to me like she is young and her boyfriend is perhaps the irresponsible one. She may be urging him to be home on time, and he's the one causing the delays. She may be reluctant to contact you because she's embarassed and she may be hoping her bf will get it together and she won't be that late afterall. Sounds like her 2 am estimate was hopeful thinking.

Be careful of boarding facilities. We've not had good luck with them, even the ones that look clean and responsible. Our trip to Europe cost us another approx. $800 in vet bills when we got home and had 3 sick dogs to contend with. Not to mention the extra work caused by their illnesses and the emotional fustration and fears for their health. This is the third time they have come home sick from different facilities.

Next time, we may try to find a friend who can help us and avoid boarding. The benefits of not putting your pets in a boarding situation may outweigh the inconveniences you are dealing with now.

Hope they get home soon!!!

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

Sounds to me like she is young and her boyfriend is perhaps the irresponsible one. She may be urging him to be home on time, and he's the one causing the delays. She may be reluctant to contact you because she's embarassed and she may be hoping her bf will get it together and she won't be that late afterall. Sounds like her 2 am estimate was hopeful thinking.

Be careful of boarding facilities. We've not had good luck with them, even the ones that look clean and responsible. Our trip to Europe cost us another approx. $800 in vet bills when we got home and had 3 sick dogs to contend with. Not to mention the extra work caused by their illnesses and the emotional fustration and fears for their health. This is the third time they have come home sick from different facilities.

Next time, we may try to find a friend who can help us and avoid boarding. The benefits of not putting your pets in a boarding situation may outweigh the inconveniences you are dealing with now.

Hope they get home soon!!!

I agree with Marilyn. It could definitely be the boyfriend causing the problems, especially if you've never had this kind of thing happen before in your friendship. Is there anyone else who could take care of your dog if you have to go out of town? Sounds like a boarding facility might not be a good option either, but if you had another friend or relative care for your dog, your friendship with this person might be less strained. Good luck!

[judy]

It is a rough one - because you may have to board your dogs, but I agree with Sheryl.

Whenever I find myself resenting somebody's actions, I don't do whatever it is anymore. The trick is to do it as nicely as possible if you want to maintain the friendship, and because she works for you.

I hope she comes back soon!

[toodles]

well, she came back the next day and yeah, i have talked to her a bit. not about everything. but just about her attitude in general. she's been a bit of a "b" lately and it is really starting to get to me. it's like she isn't thinking about what she says before it spills out. DH thinks it is because she is frustrated with her BF because he is always late, kinda lazy, and is taking a very long time to propose. we all thought it would have happened by now. he has the ring (she does not know this) but he just hasn't done it. they kept talking about getting married in May and she knows time is counting down and she is getting frustrated about it. i told her it gives her no right to treat us all like crap. she said she didn't mean to...so I read some of the emails she has sent to my husband back to her. i asked her how she would feel if i sent her or her BF an email like that. she didn't say much. she just said she is stressed. well...that's no excuse and i told her.

she says she is stressed about work. i told her that she will continue to be stressed until she talks about what is bothering her and give people fair chance to make it right. holding it in will just make her life hell and ruin her friendships...with me as well as others.

we have always had a WONDERFUL friendship...with little to no bumps in the road. so this is kinda catching me off guard. but we will be fine. still some more talking to do but we will get it all out and be ok I love her more than any friend i have ever known...we will fix this

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by toodles

we have always had a WONDERFUL friendship...with little to no bumps in the road. so this is kinda catching me off guard. but we will be fine. still some more talking to do but we will get it all out and be ok I love her more than any friend i have ever known...we will fix this

Sounds like you're going about this in just the right way. A friendship, especially a good one, is too important to just give up over something small.

[judy]

I read a beautiful line in one of Wally Lamb's books, "Never give away love."

Keep trying and just do your best.

Good luck and I really hope it works out well.