My Daughter Jessica called me!!!

[Janet]

Oh Judy!!!!! I am so happy for you, I know how badly you want this.

I must say too, I'm a little worried....

I'm praying that I can get the fact to her as nicely as possible that she has to back me up where he's concerned

I don't know if that will work....he's her husband and that may just turn her back the other way...ya know? I want this to work out for your, but I don't know if that demand will work. Maybe after you two are together for awhile, but I'm just afraid that it won't work if it's brought up too quickly.

I'm keeping you in my prayers, Judy....

[Tink]

Judy, I'm so glad she finally called you!

I have to admit I agree with Janet though... given the way things have been, that might simply be asking too much. If you've gone to Alanon then you know she has no control over him or the way he treats you or even her. I don't know that you can ask her to promise what's not hers to give without her just turning away again.

My prayers are with you to have this work out well.

[judy]

Well, we spoke for over an hour. I got to speak to all 3 of my grandchildren. They are so precious! We both love each other and she invited me up for Thanksgiving.
I'll go for sure, but I think I'll stay in a hotel. The whole family will be there and I believe a little distance goes a long way.

I did bring up her backing me up in the nicest way and she agreed. I don't want her to go against her husband or to fight with him, but to communicate with me if he won't allow something or if I do something that upsets him, etc. I told her I can't go through his being nasty and her not calling me and either explaining it to me or telling me not to worry about it. For example, I told her that when I called on a Wednesday and he told me I couldn't see the children, if she had called me and told me that he was just upset about whatever, I could certainly have looked the other way. She understood that. She did explain that there are certain things that he just won't go along with and there's nothing she can do about it. He does it to his mother too. I said, just call me and let me know and that's that. I don't expect him to change and I don't want her to fight with him, just back me up when I need it or explain things to me so I know that she understands how I feel. She does seem to understand this. She said she probably didn't handle things the right way, but she wasn't ready to start over with me again and neither was he.

So, it looks like I'm going to have to look the other way a lot with him, as long as she communicates with me as to what's going on .

There was a lot more to the conversation, but I'll go more into it tomorrow.

I'm very happy. She said she's been feeling really well for about a year now. We both agreed that it's a miracle.

[Tink]

Judy, I'm so happy for you!
HUGS

[Janet]

I'm so happy for you Judy, my heart just hast this warm feeling as I read your post.