I think it's over.

[rivermom]

Sometimes it's difficult to remember that we can never change others, only ourselves. Our actions, thought processes, attitudes, etc...

[Mandy]

Lindsey, if you plan on traveling, and bringing the little one across, but are worried about the quarantine, let me know, i can help you.

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by Mandy

Lindsey, if you plan on traveling, and bringing the little one across, but are worried about the quarantine, let me know, i can help you.

Thanks Mandy! As soon as I get the money to go to Europe, I'll be there!

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

Thanks Mandy! As soon as I get the money to go to Europe, I'll be there!

[Lindsey]

He emailed me.
He asked what's the deal with us and I told him "I told you want I want. That's your decision." And it turned into a big fight basically me defending why I want to move and him saying that's stupid. He said he has friends and family here and he won't leave just to go to "the yukon or the maritimes or whatever your dream place is" I told him I'm not happy here and I don't want to settle and be sitting here 10 or 20 or 30 years down the road wondering what else I could have done with my life. He said "whatever". I asked him to understand where I'm coming from, I'm not happy here and I need to go places and see things. He said it would be stupid for him to get up and leave everything he's ever known. I said "then it looks like our lives are taking different paths."
and that's it. no reply.

[katepoet]

I found a man who was willing to follow me anywhere. Life intervened and we haven't gone very far but I know the deal still holds, 26 years later. He will always back me up and put me first. I have to recommend it. Of course, it's a two-way street, but I am the one with the career and travel plans - I really expected to spend a lot of time in Africa and South America. Still might get to do some of that, just differently than I planned originally. But I would not have allowed myself to get serious with someone who didn't put me first. We still took care of his mom, my dad, whatever we needed to do, but we did it together, making decisions that were best for the two of us, and eventually, our son. (and don't forget, the dog!)

[rivermom]

Lindsey - By all you wrote it sorta seems you've already shown yourself where this relationship is going. I think you have your answers to realize which road you need to take girl.

My heart goes out to you. I admire you for realizing what you want out of your life. Many people wander forever and have not a clue. You are one step ahead of the game!!

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by rivermom

Sometimes it's difficult to remember that we can never change others, only ourselves. Our actions, thought processes, attitudes, etc...

Too true, we tend to forget that other people think differently, and cant change their thoughts, or ways of thinking