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Jaime.. First I like to say hi and welcome to 4WT.
![]() I feel for you for your in a difficult situation, you want the best for your kid brother and you don't want to him to mistrust you for your close to your parents and you want him to confide in you. Without him thinking that you will police him and tattle on him to your parents. He is only 16 yrs. old a diffucult age to be. Lot's of peer pressure etc. We have all been there done that. He will not listen to reason at the moment. If I were you and he sounds like he trusts you with what he confides in you. I would sit down and have a talk with him. The dangers of drinking, drugs ,sex and smoking at this age. Sometimes you have to repeat the things that they don't want to hear, I find as mom it does get absorbed . They may not agree and try to go with the in crowd. I think since you are close to your parents, you should confide in them. It is their place to step in with whom your brother is hanging out with. Not yours, you should not be the bad guy. Besides he probably will not listen to you anyway.When you have this discussion with your parents, tell them please do not involve me , and that you heard nothing from me. It's good that your not to much older and probably know his hang outs and friends. Definetly keep an eye on him. My children when they were teenagers , if one didn't like what the other did or heard something that they didn't like. They would tell me and I would handle it... It's hard but your a good sister and your just care about him. He will realize later on in life.. |
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I suggest smelling his dirty clothes. If you've ever smelled weed before you'll know for sure if he's smoking it from his clothes. If you don't know what weed smells like, it kinda smells like dirty feet & b/o. If he's smoking cigarettes you should be able to smell that too. Also if he wears tons of cologne or something he might be covering up some other smells. I personally think he's too young to do these things. I did some of these things, but I was older. There's a boy in my town who's girlfriend just had a baby & he's only 15. Make sure he's being careful....at 16 is he really ready to have a baby. Also what about driving under the influence, he could get hurt or hurt someone else. I don't know if you too are close, but a heart to heart might be in order, but he may not want to listen.
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I really think that you need to let your parents know what you think is going on. I know that as a parent I would want to know. You need to leave the responsiblity of what to do in your parent's hands and be willing to help with what ever they decide.
Teen years are such hard years. They want to have their freedom but with that freedom comes responsiblity. The things that are done at this age, or any age for that matter, can affect you for the rest of your life. A disabling car accident, getting a girl pregnant, getting addicted to drugs, hanging out with the wrong crowd, so many things that can affect your future all because of not thinking what can happen. Do you think that any teen wants to go through life with problems hanging over them? No, but many do because of not caring enough about what's ahead of them. This is the speech to give to your brother. Good luck!
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thank you for your suggestions! i think i am going to go and tell them about what i heard from his friend. You are completely right about so many things can change ones life forever. hope for the best for us please. thanks again. ![]() |
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well heres the latest update... parents talked to him and now all he needs is hopes and prayers that he will stay on the right track. I sincerly think that he is going to. My little brother is a good kid with a good head on his shoulders he knows what is wrong from right and hopefully he can just stand up to temptation from now on. Thanks for all the input everyone!
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