Relying on your Husband/partner financially

Sherry Lynn · 09-19-2006, 07:43 AM

I've worked all my adult life and lived on my own, so I took care of myself before meeting my husband. But a recent injury has me home now and I might not go back to work.

Hubby has always taken care of the bills, so I could spend my earnings however I wanted. I have a checking account.. he has one... and we have one together. Thankfully he's really generous so I never have to ask him for money. He always gives me cash and transfers money into my account. Usually I just pay with a credit card, though, and he pays the bill when it comes in.

I'd hate it if I had to ask for money all the time. I think I want to find a part-time job, though, so I don't get so bored this winter.

Carolyn · 09-19-2006, 08:14 AM

I'm a SAHM and for me it works. My husband takes care of all the bills and finances and he gives me money every week but if I need more I just ask and I always have the credit cards!

But even though I am dependent on him I feel independent knowing that if I had to make money I could. I have to say that being home taking care of the house and kids is harder than any job I had. But I'm happy that I'm able to be home.

BUT now that the kids are in school all day I'm seriously thinking of getting something part time for something to do and get out of the house. I was thinking of something along the lines of a personal assistant/companion for an elderly person. That seems pretty flexible. The perfect job to me would be maybe 3 days a week from 10-2 pm.

Sherry Lynn · 09-19-2006, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Carolyn

BUT now that the kids are in school all day I'm seriously thinking of getting something part time for something to do and get out of the house. I was thinking of something along the lines of a personal assistant/companion for an elderly person. That seems pretty flexible. The perfect job to me would be maybe 3 days a week from 10-2 pm.

That sounds perfect! Where can I get one?

Janet · 09-19-2006, 08:38 AM

I only drive a school bus, but it really is the perfect job. I work whenever my son is in school. It doesn't get us rich, but I do carry the health insurance and it is really good. I can make extra if I take extra-curricular trips and sports trips. Also, if I feel the need for extra I can substitute teach. I like being able to be home most of the time during the day. I'm usually gone 2 hours in the morning and then 2 hours in the afternoon.

It can also be very rewarding at times. Some of those kids needs someone who cares about them and I really do. It can also be the most frustrating with kids who know no discipline.

Carolyn · 09-19-2006, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

I only drive a school bus, but it really is the perfect job. I work whenever my son is in school. It doesn't get us rich, but I do carry the health insurance and it is really good. I can make extra if I take extra-curricular trips and sports trips. Also, if I feel the need for extra I can substitute teach. I like being able to be home most of the time during the day. I'm usually gone 2 hours in the morning and then 2 hours in the afternoon.

It can also be very rewarding at times. Some of those kids needs someone who cares about them and I really do. It can also be the most frustrating with kids who know no discipline.

That is perfect Janet! My kids have the best bus driver this year. You can tell she really cares about the kids. I can imagine how bad it must be though with those unruly kids on the bus. Standing and screaming the whole ride! UGH!

Janet · 09-19-2006, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Carolyn

That is perfect Janet! My kids have the best bus driver this year. You can tell she really cares about the kids. I can imagine how bad it must be though with those unruly kids on the bus. Standing and screaming the whole ride! UGH!

I truely love my kids. They're really good, most of the time. But the school has bus rules, and I have my own bus rules. I send a letter to each parent at the beginning of the school year outlining all the rules. So there is no excuse. The kids know I follow through on all the discipline, and since they know I mean business they follow the rules. I can be in ones face at one minute, but then tell them to have a great day at school the next. I never hold a grudge. They are just kids..from kindergarten to 12th grade. Sometimes I wonder why "this job", but I think God put his hand on my shoulder and led me to it. My encouragement may be the only encouragement they get and I won't let them down.

Janet · 09-19-2006, 09:19 AM

I do have one short story:

One of the students brought a friend on the bus to go to his house after school. After they got to their seat, I told Jade to tell his friend the rules...he looked at his friend and said: "ya can't do nothing"!!! I laughed so hard I about fell out of my seat.

Carolyn · 09-19-2006, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

Sometimes I wonder why "this job", but I think God put his hand on my shoulder and led me to it. My encouragement may be the only encouragement they get and I won't let them down.

You are such a wonderful person Janet! We need more people like you!

Amber_lv · 09-19-2006, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

I only drive a school bus, but it really is the perfect job. I work whenever my son is in school. It doesn't get us rich, but I do carry the health insurance and it is really good. I can make extra if I take extra-curricular trips and sports trips. Also, if I feel the need for extra I can substitute teach. I like being able to be home most of the time during the day. I'm usually gone 2 hours in the morning and then 2 hours in the afternoon.

It can also be very rewarding at times. Some of those kids needs someone who cares about them and I really do. It can also be the most frustrating with kids who know no discipline.

I have road rage and i don't think having a bunch of screaming kids would help that lol i'd be like don't make me turn this bus around as i flipping them all around with my nascar driving lol

Mandy78 · 09-19-2006, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Amber_lv

I have road rage and i don't think having a bunch of screaming kids would help that lol i'd be like don't make me turn this bus around as i flipping them all around with my nascar driving lol

LOL!!! You are sooo silly! LOL!

Amber_lv · 09-19-2006, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Mandy78

LOL!!! You are sooo silly! LOL!

mwahhahahahhaha (with my evil laugh)

Janet · 09-19-2006, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Amber_lv

I have road rage and i don't think having a bunch of screaming kids would help that lol i'd be like don't make me turn this bus around as i flipping them all around with my nascar driving lol

You are just so funny...man I wish we lived closer to each other!!!

Amber_lv · 09-19-2006, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

You are just so funny...man I wish we lived closer to each other!!!

I know we would be trouble!!!

09-19-2006, 08:38 AM	#4
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I only drive a school bus, but it really is the perfect job. I work whenever my son is in school. It doesn't get us rich, but I do carry the health insurance and it is really good. I can make extra if I take extra-curricular trips and sports trips. Also, if I feel the need for extra I can substitute teach. I like being able to be home most of the time during the day. I'm usually gone 2 hours in the morning and then 2 hours in the afternoon. It can also be very rewarding at times. Some of those kids needs someone who cares about them and I really do. It can also be the most frustrating with kids who know no discipline. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

09-19-2006, 09:19 AM	#7
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I do have one short story: One of the students brought a friend on the bus to go to his house after school. After they got to their seat, I told Jade to tell his friend the rules...he looked at his friend and said: "ya can't do nothing"!!! I laughed so hard I about fell out of my seat. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

09-19-2006, 07:43 AM	#1
Sherry Lynn Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Jersey Posts: 211	I've worked all my adult life and lived on my own, so I took care of myself before meeting my husband. But a recent injury has me home now and I might not go back to work. Hubby has always taken care of the bills, so I could spend my earnings however I wanted. I have a checking account.. he has one... and we have one together. Thankfully he's really generous so I never have to ask him for money. He always gives me cash and transfers money into my account. Usually I just pay with a credit card, though, and he pays the bill when it comes in. I'd hate it if I had to ask for money all the time. I think I want to find a part-time job, though, so I don't get so bored this winter.

09-19-2006, 08:14 AM	#2
Carolyn Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: NJ Posts: 151	I'm a SAHM and for me it works. My husband takes care of all the bills and finances and he gives me money every week but if I need more I just ask and I always have the credit cards! But even though I am dependent on him I feel independent knowing that if I had to make money I could. I have to say that being home taking care of the house and kids is harder than any job I had. But I'm happy that I'm able to be home. BUT now that the kids are in school all day I'm seriously thinking of getting something part time for something to do and get out of the house. I was thinking of something along the lines of a personal assistant/companion for an elderly person. That seems pretty flexible. The perfect job to me would be maybe 3 days a week from 10-2 pm.

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