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they make alarms you can put on the door. you might try that. However, irregardless of what the counselor said, I think I would put her on a pallet in my room until she grows up some. She may hate you for it, but she'll get over it. and truly even if she dont, as long as she is safe....
kids are like dogs, they need boundaries.
Are you married? Perhaps the dad and you can take turns sitting outside her room. I hope you come up with a plan!