grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[katcarasella]

Honey, I think you're perfect.
This is life and sometimes we hit bumps in the road, so hold on tight and hang in there. Sounds like she gave you some very good roots so now you just have to blossom.........

[katcarasella]

She's just upset right now, how old is she? Is she going through the change of life? Something is really bothering her if she's sharing with her friend.
"If Momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." Ever hear that one!

[NicoleMarcelle]

if only i was allowed to
i know they are trying to protect me but i have to make my own mistakes, and they don't let me do that... no matter how well i do outside home, they cant cut the cord...but i guess someday i'll be well off enough to move out on my own... the only thing is that i lose any support i have from them if i move out of my house... thats sorta what i mean about not being allowed to blossom... but i'll have to figure something out... cuz i don't know if i want to go to law school down in SoFL...i might wanna go to another school that is better than the ones down here... and they don't want me to, therefore they won't pay for school...

[Janet]

Nicole, I sure hope this doesn't come across has harsh, it is not my intention. You need to sit down calmly with your parents and have an adult conversation. Not a whiney one. Please honey do not take offense.

My son is 17 and we can have some of the best conversations, even about something he wants or wants to do..etc. or anything really serious, but when he starts that whiney bit...my attitude toward the conversation changes immediately. If you're coming across with your parents as a young adult fine, then this doesn't pertain to you, but if you don't then you can't expect them to treat you like an adult if you're not going to act like one.

Again, I don't know if this is how things are, but did want you to see another angle, so to speak. Step back and see if you can really see how you are coming across to them. I really hope you all can come together and work these feelings out. Best wishes...growing up is so hard.

[DianaB]

I agree with Janet that when you talk to your parents you need to come across as a young person with maturity to handle your problems. It sounds like your parents are trying to protect you from something but just aren't coming out and saying what. It's hard to let our children know that we're afraid that they could get in harms way when we're not around. I'm dealing with problems myself with my 15 year old daughter. Not that there's any problems, it's just that I don't want any problems to come up. She's just started dating and I've had to be very open with her about some of the rules that I have and what my expectations are for her future. She's being so very cooperative and listens to what I have to say. But my experience comes from already raising 3 other kids and this is my last child. I guess what I'm trying to say is that communication is very important on both sides. Maybe you can convince them to tell you what's troubling them. Maybe you should communicate to them what your expections are for your future and how you're preparing for it. Good luck!

[Janet]

Good advice Diana!!! She does have the experience Nicole. I hope we helped in some way.

[judy]

Nicole,

Everything works out in the end! My mother and I didn't get along. She hated my first husband before we got married. I moved out finally, and after 4 1/2 years of marriage, we got divorced. Where did I go with my baby? Home to Mama - who, no matter how we fought over everything, took me in without hesitation and with open arms.

I hated my daughter's husband. In fact, we didn't talk for 3 years, I didn't see her or my grandchildren. It was terrible. We finally reconciled and now I love him! That marriage was meant to be.

You never know what's going to happen in life, but your mother will always have you in her heart. Do what you have to for your life. You have every right to be happy in your own way, but keep a place for your mother in your heart too.