SIL problems AGAIN!!

My God Janet I thought for a minute you were talking about my sister! She's also been a screw up her whole life, starting from an early age & she's now in her 40's also. All she has to do is bring on the tears or throw a tantrum or the one that is sure to work is the "poor me I'm a victim & everyone is out to get me!" routine. It works everytime on my mother. My mother's purse has been open all her life. She was in jail for a couple of years recently & my mother paid for the laywer, fines & money for her too call & reverse the charges. Her phone bill was a easy $300 a month from those calls.They took her daughter in for those two years, paid her storage fees on her furniture & bought her a car when she got out. All the while my mother complains non-stop about how she can't take it much more but it still goes on today. Just in the last 2 1/2 yrs. the have given her $30,000 & that was their retirement money. I used to feel sorry for my mother but after years & years of listening to this & advising her to stop giving her things because she''ll never do it on her own, I've finally decided to save my own sanity. I have removed myself from the situation. I have'nt seen or heard from my sister in over two years. She is now living back w/ my parents again so I have not been there in over a year. It may not be the best solution but it certainly brought me some peace of mind. Since I have no control over the situation I needed to remove myself. All I can say is don't let her get away w/ anything that you can control. Call the police if she takes the car.Good luck.