Body Image Flaws And Your Hubby.

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Originally Posted by Mandy78

My hubby has never said anything negative about me. Even now since I have put on about 30 lbs since we got married...grrrrr.....But we are both excerising together now and cooking healthier and all that good stuff. There are times when I look in the mirror and I can't the way I look, and he can tell I am upset about it. But he always comes over and kisses me and say I am beautiful no matter what!! And that he loves me!!!! He has alway been soo supportive of me and loves me thru thick and thin! LOL!

Love the use of the pun! My hubby loves me thru thick and thin, too. My hubby and I have definately gained weight since we got married a year ago. You know how they call it the "Freshman Fifteen"? Well I believed I gained the "Newlywed Nine"!!!!! But we have started working out together and eating more healthy. Hopefully I can unload some of this "junk in the trunk" before too long.

[Janet]

When I first saw this thread, I thought it was about our husbands flaws...and I was so excited...LMAO!!, so since it isn't I'm gonna start one:

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Janet

When I first saw this thread, I thought it was about our husbands flaws...and I was so excited...LMAO!!, so since it isn't I'm gonna start one:

OMG!! LMAO!!!

[Janet]

Did you find the new thread I started ladies??? If not, then hop to it!!!! Time to be honest with your husbands flaws!!

Originally Posted by Janet

Did you find the new thread I started ladies??? If not, then hop to it!!!! Time to be honest with your husbands flaws!!

hun can i just ask are you still with your husband? and if so WHY? you could get so much better if my partner said he wanted to divorce me cos id put on weight id pack his bag and call the cab for him.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by sashajade

hun can i just ask are you still with your husband? and if so WHY? you could get so much better if my partner said he wanted to divorce me cos id put on weight id pack his bag and call the cab for him.

Yes, we're still together. Why? who knows, 32 years of marriage 4 years of dating before that. Back when he said that, we had only been married a short time and I was laid off from my job. I ate, so I gained weight. I guess it wasn't what he bargained for. You get past things if you care about someone.

Too many years have passed now, and it just would take so long to explain it all. Don't worry, as years went by, I was able to put him in his place now and again.

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Janet

Yes, we're still together. Why? who knows, 32 years of marriage 4 years of dating before that. Back when he said that, we had only been married a short time and I was laid off from my job. I ate, so I gained weight. I guess it wasn't what he bargained for. You get past things if you care about someone.

Too many years have passed now, and it just would take so long to explain it all. Don't worry, as years went by, I was able to put him in his place now and again.

I think at times it's so easy for others looking in to say this or that. Only YOU know what you want and what you are satisified with. Janet, you know your life and what you expect out of it. I can respect that. I admit, I too have sat back and thought to myself "gosh, why does Janet tolerate some of the things she does in her marriage?". But I don't live in your shoes.

It's just like a dear friend of mine. She is in a marriage with a man who does nothing but cheat on her...A LOT!! She decides to stay in the marriage for so many reasons. (not financial ones either) I always tell her it's not my place to tell her what she should and shouldn't do, it's her life. All I tell her is I want her to be happy and satisified with her life and her choices. Isn't that what we all want for our ownselves?

My own life I live 99% of the ladies on here would not agree with. But I've made choices for my ownself that I have found peace with. I've made many sacrafices in my life but had to set my priorites as to what was most important. Not saying I don't have regrets...But i did what I felt was best. We all do that.

Life is not perfect, we just do the best we can.

Originally Posted by Janet

Yes, we're still together. Why? who knows, 32 years of marriage 4 years of dating before that. Back when he said that, we had only been married a short time and I was laid off from my job. I ate, so I gained weight. I guess it wasn't what he bargained for. You get past things if you care about someone.

Too many years have passed now, and it just would take so long to explain it all. Don't worry, as years went by, I was able to put him in his place now and again.

im glad you stick up for your self and im glad your content with your life, yes its true you can get over a lot of things if you love someone. maybe its cos im 31 and have a different view on things and what i see as a partnership also the fact that i saw my mum with 2 bad partners and i vowed i would never put up with that and im gone as soon as i see the first warning signs, my mum split from her second partner after 14 years together i saw all bad but she saw some good in him but that was untill she and him split up and she could see what we all saw, she said she wanted a happy life and was looking foward to the future without him but sadly 6 months later she died of cancer aged just 53, so i watched my mum waist her very short life on 2 men that didnt deserve her so maybe im over sencertive on things like this, im sorry if you thought i was putting your husband down i wasnt, you know him not me and im sorry if it upset you.

[Amber_lv]

My hubby is really good about this he doesn't say anything rude to me.

my other half never says anything bad about me, he thinks everythings cute lol even down to my poo lol

[Emmsmom]

I went though 36 hours of labor AND a c-section to get this gorgeous body!!! He knows better that to ever say a bad thing about me!!! LOL

[Sherry Lynn]

My hubby is always quick with kind compliment. What endears me the most is how he always comments on when I am smiling and looking contented. It gives HIM the most contented expression to see me happy! And visa-versa!

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Janet... I just have to comment on 'your portion' of this thread.... I think it's all about compromise and that it's very much a generational thing as to what someone will 'put up' with.

I can see what my Grandmother found tolerable (married until death do us part)... then my mother (50+ years married)... then myself .... and now my newlywed nieces... it's such a wide spectrum! Expectations have changed so much in the favor of women. There is still a long way to go (after all, we only make 75 cents to their dollar!) but I think that women today have more options and expect more!

Also, after being married and really knowing someone for many years it isn't just about compromise, but knowing how to work around things to make them work in your favor. And as women we are very adept at manipulation.

So you don't tell him something to avoid an argument.... or you stash a little cash... or make him believe something is his idea... whatever it takes to get things done the way you want them done. Most women figure it out, and if they're smart they'll accept it and even make a game out of it! We are SO not the weaker sex!!!!!

We're wired differently, and thankfully women usually get it! As long as we have each other to work with and to vent to we can move mountains!

(All that said... you still deserve to meet the 'Big O' one day!!!) ***evil grin here!***