I'm having a pity party!!

[Janet]

Thank you Marilyn, I know I can always count on the ladies here and I value these friendships so much, but it sure would be nice to have a friend right here close to go do something with once in awhile.

We use to get together with other couples when we were younger, but most of them are divorced now and we or they didn't continue on with the friendships. Strange that at least one of us didn't value the friendship enough to keep it going.

Oh well...I'm sure I will feel much better when I can spend a little more time at least outside. It was up near 80 for a few days and it was wonderful and beautiful and all the furbabies loved being outside. Now, it's back in the 50's and feels soooo cold and at night down to the low 30's. I'm trying to be patient, but it sure is hard...lol

[deb22]

Maybe we should all get dinner. And have it together on here. We could have a dinner date. I always eat at the puter anyway!

[Janet]

Sounds like a great idea, but I just know I'd spill or drop something into the keyboard...LOL.. yes I'm sloppy and I admit it...LOL

[Gina]

Aww Janet we are always here for you we are all cyber buddies

I have always been a social person and have many good friends. We all don't see each other because we live in different states. But we speak and email each other often. I do meet some friends like I did last night for dinner and we sometimes go to the city to see a play. At least once or twice a year..

I have my family nearby so I am see them often, cousins, and brother's family. I work so I have made many friendships with other realtors and we get together go to AC and do lunch. I can understand if no one is around it could be lonely for someone.

What about the other bus drivers at work, no special friendships there? I wish you lived by me I keep you busy. Whenever you are alone.. just holler ..

[Janet]

Please don't feel bad for me, I just need to get out and make some friends. I have LynneB who I love to pieces, but she works and has her husband and furkids, and Linda (2tiredmom) up and moved 2 hours away. It would just be nice to pick up the phone once in awhile and say hey, "want to run to town for lunch?" You know.

[katcarasella]

Don't feel bad, I got you a purse today to cheer you up!!th_nutcase.jpg

[Janet]

Originally Posted by katcarasella

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I just peed my freak'n pants thank you very much!!!! Be back in a minute

[Tink]

Janet, you're right... it's important to have friends you can get together with. As you see by the responses here, I think there are a lot of women our age who feel as we do. We've spent so much time raising our families and working that we've lost touch... and it's hard to take that first step to regain those relationships. BUT I've found that when I call someone out of the blue and say "HI, I've been thinking about you and wondered if you have some free time to get together" People are usually very happy to be remembered and invited. It just takes working up the courage to make that first call. Wouldn't you LOVE to get a call like that? Others do too!

I have Londa... a very dear lady I grew up with and who is like a sister to me. I'd be lost without her! We rrely see each other because she works during the week, and is very active with her large family during her free time. But we still sneak in phone calls when we can just because we are determined to maintain our friendship. Now that the weather is improving, she walks during her breaks at work and will occasionally call me on her cell phone to talk as she walks. LOL It's an 8 minute phone call, but it means a lot to both of us since sometimes that's the best we can do.

[Shada]

I am so fortunate to have good friends.
During the winter months I pretty much hibernate like an old bear.

During good weather!!! I took up kayaking this past summer!!! Loads of fun and we have about 6-8 of us that try to get out every Sunday. We pack a lunch and make a day out of it.

Then we try to get together at least twice a month for dinner and chat.
Talk on the phone often.

I would be lost without them.
I am not close with my sisters.. I call my friends my heart sisters.
Love my mom dearly, see her weekly, talk often, and have a very special brother who is more like my best friend. My brother and I were not raised together, same father, different mother.
Maybe that is why we are so close now in our adult life.

Plus I have the internet and you guys!!
Very important piece of my life.

You all may not hear from me often, but I am here daily for my 'fix'.

This is such a great forum!!!

Thank you all for sharing a bit of your life!!

[Emmsmom]

Originally Posted by Tink

Janet, you're right... it's important to have friends you can get together with. As you see by the responses here, I think there are a lot of women our age who feel as we do. We've spent so much time raising our families and working that we've lost touch... and it's hard to take that first step to regain those relationships. BUT I've found that when I call someone out of the blue and say "HI, I've been thinking about you and wondered if you have some free time to get together" People are usually very happy to be remembered and invited. It just takes working up the courage to make that first call. Wouldn't you LOVE to get a call like that? Others do too!

Are you kidding me!! "Our Age" LOL


I am only 36 and I feel this way already! I would give anything to have some friends to go out with. We have only been here since 2004 and I have made some "friends" if thats what you want to call them. Casual friends is more like it. I still haven't met anyone that I am comfortable going shopping with and so on. Oh well maybe one day.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Janet

Please don't feel bad for me, I just need to get out and make some friends. I have LynneB who I love to pieces, but she works and has her husband and furkids, and Linda (2tiredmom) up and moved 2 hours away. It would just be nice to pick up the phone once in awhile and say hey, "want to run to town for lunch?" You know.

Have you thought about calling a friend that works and offer to take her out for lunch. I did that a few times and really enjoyed it, but I haven't done it for awhile. I would call someone different each week and just have some one-on-one time with them.

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by DianaB

Have you thought about calling a friend that works and offer to take her out for lunch. I did that a few times and really enjoyed it, but I haven't done it for awhile. I would call someone different each week and just have some one-on-one time with them.

That's a great idea, Diana. I've had dear friends tell me that they had to visit the town where I work for some obsure reason during the week and thought about calling but they know I am always busy at work and that I go out of town a lot. I tell them they should call or stop by, it might be a day when I'm free, and I we could go to lunch or something. They always say that next time they will. One friend did call me for lunch one day and we had a really nice time. Never know till you ask!!

[judy]

I find myself in the same boat a lot. I love my own space, and my friends understand me. They've learned that I'm not always going to jump at the chance for lunch, and dinner and a movie is just too much time together. They also kniow I love them dearly, and will be there for them if they need me.

What happens sometimes though is that I find that I have backed myself into my own corner! I'll get lonesome and nobody is around. I have to accept tne fact that they have learned not to count on me for once a week lunch., etc., but then I have to pay the price whenI need some company and they've made other plans.

Ah well...I guess I'm used to myself.