How or when...

[Tink]

I'm with Janet. I've been with hubby for 25 yrs but I can't say he's ever made my heart race by just walking into a room. I think I married him because I was comfortable and felt safe and loved by him. After my (abusive) first marriage, that seemed to be enough reason. I care deeply for him, and expect to spend the rest of our lives together, but I know he's not "in love" with me anymore either, which kinda serves me right I suppose.

Just for the record, long ago I was "in love" so I do know the difference.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Tink

I'm with Janet. I've been with hubby for 25 yrs but I can't say he's ever made my heart race by just walking into a room. I think I married him because I was comfortable and felt safe and loved by him. After my (abusive) first marriage, that seemed to be enough reason. I care deeply for him, and expect to spend the rest of our lives together, but I know he's not "in love" with me anymore either, which kinda serves me right I suppose.

Just for the record, long ago I was "in love" so I do know the difference.

It is so nice for someone to know how I feel. I did "love" him at one time and I still care for him...I'm just not "in love" with him. It's just so hard to explain, because he really is a very nice person. He's a devoted son to his step-mom and will help anyone if he can. It's just after 32 years of marriage, I just feel I've missed out on so much as a couple.

I will tell you that about 25 years ago, we did separate. I did meet someone and thought I fell in love, but I don't know whether it would have worked or not. Too long a story for details, but it was very nice while it lasted. Anyway, I try to remember if I hadn't stayed with hubby, I wouldn't have my son...and he's my life, he means everything to me.

I just see how some people are as a couple and wish it for myself. My life is nothing, and I mean nothing like what I thought it would be or what I wanted. Seems like such a waste of time. Now it's more than half over....