OMG ! Stealing!

[Janet]

I would get the items back in a heart beat!!! By letting it go..you're condoning her actions. Next time she stays....(yes you can forgive her,) check her stuff before she leaves. I hope it all works out and you get the items back. Clothing is too expensive to just let someone take it.

[Dobie]

I definately think her mother should be involved. Bringing the items to school might cause problems for your daughter - who knows what would be said to the other kids.

[DianaB]

I think that I would go by the house when the girl's home from school and ask her to get the shirts that she has of your daughter's. Usually children are intimidated by adults so you might be able to get them back that a way. You can pretend that she borrowed them to the Mom and that you just wanted them returned to your daughter because they were special gifts. Then wait there until you have them in hand. Having your husband in the car with you might be good too. Or have him go up to the house and ask for the shirts. Men intimidate women. Good luck!

[katcarasella]

I agree with Diane, but I wouldn't be inviting her back for a sleep over again. Who knows what kind of influence she could have on your daughter. This young lady would have to earn you and your daughters trust again before I'd let her be a friend.

[Emmsmom]

I think that is what I am going to do. My husband thinks that my daughter needs to ask for them back. He said she needs to grow a spine. LOL She is very shy but slowly coming out of it. So I plan on letting her know at the bus stop this afternoon that it wasn't ok to BORROW the clothes without asking first and that we are going to follow her home so that my daughter can pick them up. I will let you know how it goes. LOL

[Emmsmom]

OK... I ended up waiting till she got off the bus and then talked to her. She even brought Emmie's sweater to school. So she knew she shouldn't have taken it. I called her over to the car I said... " Honey, I don't mind you borrowing clothes but you need to ask first. So Emmie is going to come get the other 2 shirts later." She said ok and then they asked if Emmie could come over so that they could do homework. Geez.. I was worried that they wouldn't be speaking and all hell would have broke loose. I am glad that went over well. She doesn't have the best homelife and I was very reluctant to let my daughter go over there. They live across the street and I told Emmie that if her OLDER brother started arguing and fighting with her mom then she was to come home. This turned out better than I had expected. I let her know that it was not ok and I guess by letting Emmie go over there it let her know that everything was ok. If that makes any sense. LOL

[katcarasella]

Good for you Michelle, maybe with Emmie as a friend she'll learn from her.