Now I feel like the worst mother who was ever born!

[Janet]

I don't blame you Judy. It's hard between mothers and daughters I think. I hope she doesn't stop calling again, but maybe when you both got back together, it was too much too soon. Maybe a little break would do you both good. You know I'll keep you in my nightly prayers girl!

[Marilyn]

Judy, I sincerely hope that this all works out for both of you. Perhaps a step back for a moment would be good. Dave Ramsey recommends a book called Boundaries. Here's link http://www.daveramsey.com/shop/Boundaries_P303C44.cfm. I think it is available on Amazon.com also. You might check it our and perhaps if you think it's good, Jessie could read it, too. He talks about this book whenever people are having problems with parents or parents with adult children. Hope this or something helps you both work through this situation. We care and are here anytime you need us!!!

[Chandra Amaya]

I hope things calm daown and get better for you, Judy.

[judy]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

Judy, I sincerely hope that this all works out for both of you. Perhaps a step back for a moment would be good. Dave Ramsey recommends a book called Boundaries. Here's link http://www.daveramsey.com/shop/Boundaries_P303C44.cfm. I think it is available on Amazon.com also. You might check it our and perhaps if you think it's good, Jessie could read it, too. He talks about this book whenever people are having problems with parents or parents with adult children. Hope this or something helps you both work through this situation. We care and are here anytime you need us!!!

I just ordered the book. Thanks!

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by judy

I just ordered the book. Thanks!

I hope it gives you some insight or atleast some peace.

[katcarasella]

Originally Posted by Chandra Amaya

I hope it gives you some insight or at least some peace.

I'm keeping you in my prayers Judy, I wish I could give you a big hug.

[DianaB]

I'm so sorry, Judy!

I would venture to guess that your daughter's love language is quality time. When you are with your daughter try to have some really good one-on-one conversations. No kids, no distractions. Just you and your daughter. Try to give her some special attention, compliments, and small gifts. You don't have to be at her beck and call but give her the extra attention when you're there the next time. There's a book called "The 5 love languages of children" that might be helpful.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by DianaB

I'm so sorry, Judy!

I would venture to guess that your daughter's love language is quality time. When you are with your daughter try to have some really good one-on-one conversations. No kids, no distractions. Just you and your daughter. Try to give her some special attention, compliments, and small gifts. You don't have to be at her beck and call but give her the extra attention when you're there the next time. There's a book called "The 5 love languages of children" that might be helpful.

I've never read the 5 Love Languages of Children, but I did read the one for married couples and I agree that it sounds like Jessie's love language is quality time. Judy, you are not a bad mother, you and Jessie just have different ways of feeling loved. She needs to respect your boundaries, but I think she also needs to spend time with you in order to feel loved. This doesn't mean you need to live close to her, but like Diana said, make some special effort to spend one-on-one time with her whenever possible. Perhaps that will make her feel more loved and cause her to be more accepting of your choices and your desire to live your own life the way you want to. I'm sorry you are feeling down. We are here for you whenever you need to vent. Remember, you are a wonderful person and a great mother who truly loves your daughter and grandchildren!