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Old 09-25-2006, 05:16 PM   #1
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I can't say I know exactly how you feel, but I was raped when I was younger and I did go through a period of being scared and intimidated by any guy who looked like he could overpower me. Do you think it would help if you enrolled in a self-defense class? I know some places have classes exclusively for women, which deal with situations that many women might face. Maybe the confidence to know what to do and how to protect yourself might help to alleviate your fears a little.
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Old 09-25-2006, 05:45 PM   #2
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I can't say I know exactly how you feel, but I was raped when I was younger and I did go through a period of being scared and intimidated by any guy who looked like he could overpower me. Do you think it would help if you enrolled in a self-defense class? I know some places have classes exclusively for women, which deal with situations that many women might face. Maybe the confidence to know what to do and how to protect yourself might help to alleviate your fears a little.
Great idea!! I think it would be so beneficial for you try something like this. You need to be empowered so you don't have to feel afraid anymore. I am so sorry you feel this way, but I feel that you should be commended for taking the steps to overcome it by seeing a therapist. And whenever you feel the need to get things off your chest and your therapist is unavailable, you can always come on here. We may not be therapists but we are willing to listen and offer you comfort. Best of luck to you.
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Old 09-26-2006, 07:18 AM   #3
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Seeing a therapist is a great first step, congratulations for that!! Also the self-defense classes sound like a great idea.

I do want to share that when I was younger and afraid...I would "fake" confidence....and after a while..you know...I was more confident. If you tell yourself or act one way long enough, it becomes habit. Tell yourself that you're a young confident woman and act like it. Maybe you'll realize that is exactly what you are!!!
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Old 09-26-2006, 04:05 PM   #4
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Therapy and self defense both sounds like good ideas to me. Your hubby changed the locks and you're aware of your surroundings so you're on the right track. I'd continue the therapy and make sure you always take care to be vigilant.

I'll pray for you.
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