Please help me

[Lindsey]

It was Kyle's party and my ex went because he is friends with Kyle, they work together. I wasn't jealous about the girl, we've been broken up for a long time and we're not FRIENDS but we are civil with each other. He is not someone I would ever want to date again. I just think it was absolutely disrespectful for him to be like that with a girl in my boyfriend's house and on my boyfriend's BED. We're not college students and it wasn't a loud crazy party. There were about 25 to 30 of Kyle's friends who came over to have a few drinks in celebration of his house finally getting all finished. We're all adults and everyone was acting like it except my ex. It was absolutely disrespectful for him to act like that, and everyone was feeling uncomfortable. I was trying to ignore it but him going into Kyle's bedroom with that girl and closing the door was the last straw.

[Mandy]

Lindsey, i have to agree with Dobie, when a person calls hes wife or girlfriend using the F word in front of the name, is extermely disrespectful, and i find that quite disturbing.
The fact that he said, he doesnt care how you get home, makes me wonder what he does care about?
What Kyle did is very rude, and childish, the only thing he should be caring for is you, and the relationship he has with you.
If it meant he has to break hes friendship with your ex, then so be it.
He's future is not with your ex, but with you.
In respect to you, he should have asked your ex, and hes girlfriend to get out of hes bedroom, and leave hes house.
If he is a true friend to Kyle, what was he doing is the bedroom in the first place? Why would anyone for that matter want to go to a bedroom while they are invited to someone elses home! Thats wrong period!

Lindsey, do yourself a huge favour, and have some quiet, alone time to think things through properly, give yourself some space.
Think about yourself, and your own self respect.

HUGS!!

[Gina]

Lindsey I agree with Mandy and Dobie on this one.. Here is my two cents..


First of all Kyle has many issues your happy one day and in a rut over something the next argument. Why are you putting up with this behavior ? He should be treating you with respect and love, if he treats you badly now forget about it if you marry him.. Looking from the outside of things and what you post, he has his own issues and most of the times treats you badly. I am sorry but I am speaking to you as if you were my daughter..

You have no reason to be jealous over your ex and his girlfriend, and how they acted is very immature and she sounds like a flootzy, Kyle being it was his house should have told your ex on the side to cut it out. If they were so horny for each other < sorry > they should have left and got a room at a hotel. Not his bedroom , for you share that bed and why would he want someone doing it on his bed...That is disgusting , and I am no prude. Then to boot he makes you find your own way home late at night. I would have told him see ya! and dropped his a**s.

In all honesty Lindsey you should re consider this relationship for no man is worth this aggravation and it may never get better. Your young and still have a life ahead of you.. As the old saying goes and holds true today also .. There are plenty of fish in the sea.....

Think about what most have said and remember we have age and experience.

[judy]

Dear Lindsey,

You're so young and talented and sweet. You work your butt off, and do a great job, you're beautiful, you've traveled and have hopes and dreams - and you do them! I love that about you. The traveling and riding your bike and all.

If you could, take a good look at what more than a few women here say about their happy marriages. They never talk about drama. If you could go through some posts and see how people in good, loving relationships talk and feel about each other, I think it would be really helpful to you.

Kyle is not going to change. If you are 100% happy with the way it is now, then fine. If you're waiting for change, leave.

[Lindsey]

Kyle and I both know that we won't be together forever. He knows full well that I am moving away and he isn't. So it's more just a matter of time than a matter of should we be together or not. It's not going to work out in the long run. I think it's just easier to end it because of me leaving than for me to try to just break up with him now and sit here lonely and miserable for the rest of the year. I do like hanging out with him when I have nothing else to do. He told me today he is mad at me for walking out like that. I said I think we need to both think everything over and have a talk. He asked what I meant and I told him there is just a lot of drama in our relationiship. He said "Just last night. When was the last time before that?" and he always makes it sound like he does everything for me and I have it good with him and blah blah blah.

[judy]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

Kyle and I both know that we won't be together forever. He knows full well that I am moving away and he isn't. So it's more just a matter of time than a matter of should we be together or not. It's not going to work out in the long run. I think it's just easier to end it because of me leaving than for me to try to just break up with him now and sit here lonely and miserable for the rest of the year. I do like hanging out with him when I have nothing else to do. He told me today he is mad at me for walking out like that. I said I think we need to both think everything over and have a talk. He asked what I meant and I told him there is just a lot of drama in our relationiship. He said "Just last night. When was the last time before that?" and he always makes it sound like he does everything for me and I have it good with him and blah blah blah.

Well that settles that! Why worry about it anymore? You really don't have to pay attention to his drama at this point. Just be sure who you choose for the next boyfriend, because that might be permanent.

You deserve somebody wonderful. I'm going to pray that you get that.

[HALEY]

Lindsey don't make the same mistake i did, you can get out now, but it's not as easy to leave once you get married and a child is involved, run now!!!