Please help me

[judy]

Dear Lindsey,

You're so young and talented and sweet. You work your butt off, and do a great job, you're beautiful, you've traveled and have hopes and dreams - and you do them! I love that about you. The traveling and riding your bike and all.

If you could, take a good look at what more than a few women here say about their happy marriages. They never talk about drama. If you could go through some posts and see how people in good, loving relationships talk and feel about each other, I think it would be really helpful to you.

Kyle is not going to change. If you are 100% happy with the way it is now, then fine. If you're waiting for change, leave.

[Lindsey]

Kyle and I both know that we won't be together forever. He knows full well that I am moving away and he isn't. So it's more just a matter of time than a matter of should we be together or not. It's not going to work out in the long run. I think it's just easier to end it because of me leaving than for me to try to just break up with him now and sit here lonely and miserable for the rest of the year. I do like hanging out with him when I have nothing else to do. He told me today he is mad at me for walking out like that. I said I think we need to both think everything over and have a talk. He asked what I meant and I told him there is just a lot of drama in our relationiship. He said "Just last night. When was the last time before that?" and he always makes it sound like he does everything for me and I have it good with him and blah blah blah.

[judy]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

Kyle and I both know that we won't be together forever. He knows full well that I am moving away and he isn't. So it's more just a matter of time than a matter of should we be together or not. It's not going to work out in the long run. I think it's just easier to end it because of me leaving than for me to try to just break up with him now and sit here lonely and miserable for the rest of the year. I do like hanging out with him when I have nothing else to do. He told me today he is mad at me for walking out like that. I said I think we need to both think everything over and have a talk. He asked what I meant and I told him there is just a lot of drama in our relationiship. He said "Just last night. When was the last time before that?" and he always makes it sound like he does everything for me and I have it good with him and blah blah blah.

Well that settles that! Why worry about it anymore? You really don't have to pay attention to his drama at this point. Just be sure who you choose for the next boyfriend, because that might be permanent.

You deserve somebody wonderful. I'm going to pray that you get that.

[HALEY]

Lindsey don't make the same mistake i did, you can get out now, but it's not as easy to leave once you get married and a child is involved, run now!!!

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by HALEY

Lindsey don't make the same mistake i did, you can get out now, but it's not as easy to leave once you get married and a child is involved, run now!!!

Awesome advice!!!

[Lindsey]

Thanks for the advice Haley. I have never thought I could ever marry Kyle. We are just not that compatible.

[Shada]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

Thanks for the advice Haley. I have never thought I could ever marry Kyle. We are just not that compatible.

Then why are you still with him? You are planning on moving.. you stated yourself you are not planning on a long term relationship with him.. you are not compatible.. yet you let yourself get worked up and hurt over and over again by his actions.

In continueing this relationship with Kyle, you could be losing out on finding and being with a person you are compatible with and could be truly happy with, and while you are honest with him that you are planning on moving soon and 'this too will end'... Is this really fair to him ..or to you?

If I ever met someone I enjoyed being with and they told me that their future did not include me, I would never involve myself with a situation that I knew would have a dead end.

Do you ever speak of love? Do you love Kyle? Do you want a future with him?
If your answer is yes, then work on the relationship. If not, then let it go. Don't waste your time or his time on a relationship that will end. Because.. whats the point? He could be thinking that you are leaving regardless so why not use you as a stepping stone until someone else comes along.. you are using him till the time comes when you leave, why shouldn't he use you?

I think you both deserve better.