I was just told to mind my own business :(

Gina · 07-23-2008, 07:10 AM

Dobie you did the right thing, that mother is an idiot. I feel bad for that child she is so lucky that you brought him home.. How can she leave a 5yr old unattended. I don't know what I would do but sure sounds like someone should alert the police or someone. She was lucky this time.. That he was not killed or kidnapped.

PS I hope you got the satisfication in telling her off because man she needs it!!!

AngieDoogles · 07-23-2008, 09:03 AM

I agree, you definitely did the right thing. You might want to consider calling your state's child protective services, especially if it happens again. They treat neglect cases as seriously as abuse. I'd hate to think that this little boy could be hurt or killed because the mother isn't providing proper supervision.

DianaB · 07-23-2008, 10:50 AM

I think that you did the right thing too, Dobie. Don't let someone's rude comment keep you from feeling that you did the right thing. You saw the danger that her son was in, not the Mother.

Emmsmom · 07-23-2008, 06:46 PM

I would suggest going to the local Dept of Social Services but they don't always have the children's best interest at heart. Sadly the ones in my area don't do squat! I also have another friend that asked for their help and got nothing but trouble from them. I think calling the police and letting them go over and say something to the family might do more. At least it may scare them really good. Just having gone over may have helped.

Shada · 07-23-2008, 07:16 PM

The other night at 9:00pm I was driving thru town and saw 2 young children, neither one over 5 probably. In the street. Main street! One was on a skateboard, the other on a bike. I thought about going to the police station which was close, then noticed a police car behind me. I thought for sure he would pull over and do something... he drove right on by. I was furious!! We have a curfew, but regardless, these were little kids alone and on main street with traffic!!! He should have stopped.
I don't understand. Where were the parents?? Why didn't the officer stop?? These kids were way to young to be out at that time of night alone!!!

AngieDoogles · 07-23-2008, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Shada

The other night at 9:00pm I was driving thru town and saw 2 young children, neither one over 5 probably. In the street. Main street! One was on a skateboard, the other on a bike. I thought about going to the police station which was close, then noticed a police car behind me. I thought for sure he would pull over and do something... he drove right on by. I was furious!! We have a curfew, but regardless, these were little kids alone and on main street with traffic!!! He should have stopped.
I don't understand. Where were the parents?? Why didn't the officer stop?? These kids were way to young to be out at that time of night alone!!!

It's just crazy what some parents allow their children to do...

AngieDoogles · 07-23-2008, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Emmsmom

I would suggest going to the local Dept of Social Services but they don't always have the children's best interest at heart. Sadly the ones in my area don't do squat! I also have another friend that asked for their help and got nothing but trouble from them. I think calling the police and letting them go over and say something to the family might do more. At least it may scare them really good. Just having gone over may have helped.

This wouldn't be a police matter. They'd just refer DCS.

Emmsmom · 07-25-2008, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

This wouldn't be a police matter. They'd just refer DCS.

Actually, that would be up to the police to decide. I know for a fact that they don't always call DSS. Even tho that is the correct procedure to follow it is not always done.

AngieDoogles · 07-25-2008, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Emmsmom

Actually, that would be up to the police to decide. I know for a fact that they don't always call DSS. Even tho that is the correct procedure to follow it is not always done.

It is done here.

teri88 · 07-24-2008, 06:24 AM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

I agree, you definitely did the right thing. You might want to consider calling your state's child protective services, especially if it happens again. They treat neglect cases as seriously as abuse. I'd hate to think that this little boy could be hurt or killed because the mother isn't providing proper supervision.

yeah that! I was going to say the same thing. It's a shame that people don't want to get involved today, and when someone goes out of their way to help they get verbally abused like that!

HALEY · 07-24-2008, 07:57 AM

Don't feel bad you did the right thing! Some parents shouldn't be blessed with children..
Micah is never out of my sight when we go out, anywhere!

DianaB · 07-24-2008, 10:00 AM

I have a problem with thinking about turning someone into the authorities. If I saw a problem then I would consider it. I'm just not for turning anyone into the authorities. I hate to think that that's what our society is turning into.

AngieDoogles · 07-24-2008, 10:10 AM

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Originally Posted by DianaB

I have a problem with thinking about turning someone into the authorities. If I saw a problem then I would consider it. I'm just not for turning anyone into the authorities. I hate to think that that's what our society is turning into.

For me, I'd hate for something to happen to the child in question and know that I could have at least tried to help.

Maybe it's just my training, but in my opinion, DCS isn't there to punish parents. They exist to see to the well-being of the child. The child's well-being depends on the family's well-being so we do everything we can to improve family functioning so that the child's safety and happiness improves.

donna1990 · 07-24-2008, 10:21 AM

She is a fool, a stranger could have picked him up and he could be gone forever.
You did the right thing, I would have done that also.

Emmsmom · 07-25-2008, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

For me, I'd hate for something to happen to the child in question and know that I could have at least tried to help.

Maybe it's just my training, but in my opinion, DCS isn't there to punish parents. They exist to see to the well-being of the child. The child's well-being depends on the family's well-being so we do everything we can to improve family functioning so that the child's safety and happiness improves.

That would be great if it were true. I know of a family right now that is going through hell because of DSS. The children are being sexually abused and have been physically abused by the father and because of DSS he is still allowed to see them. For the life of me I can't understand it. The children have been examined by doctors and bruises have been documented. There is much more to this that I am willing to put out there. The mom turned to the cops first who did NOTHING. She then turned to DSS who did nothing. So needless to say I don't think very highly of DSS. It is a joke to me and is doing nothing more than punishing these children who by the way are 6,10, and 14.

07-23-2008, 09:03 AM	#2
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	I agree, you definitely did the right thing. You might want to consider calling your state's child protective services, especially if it happens again. They treat neglect cases as seriously as abuse. I'd hate to think that this little boy could be hurt or killed because the mother isn't providing proper supervision. __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

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DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I think that you did the right thing too, Dobie. Don't let someone's rude comment keep you from feeling that you did the right thing. You saw the danger that her son was in, not the Mother. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

07-23-2008, 06:46 PM	#4
Emmsmom Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 612	I would suggest going to the local Dept of Social Services but they don't always have the children's best interest at heart. Sadly the ones in my area don't do squat! I also have another friend that asked for their help and got nothing but trouble from them. I think calling the police and letting them go over and say something to the family might do more. At least it may scare them really good. Just having gone over may have helped. __________________ MICHELLE

07-24-2008, 07:57 AM	#11
HALEY Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 2,147	Don't feel bad you did the right thing! Some parents shouldn't be blessed with children.. Micah is never out of my sight when we go out, anywhere! __________________ PROUD MOMMY

07-24-2008, 10:00 AM	#12
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I have a problem with thinking about turning someone into the authorities. If I saw a problem then I would consider it. I'm just not for turning anyone into the authorities. I hate to think that that's what our society is turning into. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

07-23-2008, 07:10 AM	#1
Gina Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,025	Dobie you did the right thing, that mother is an idiot. I feel bad for that child she is so lucky that you brought him home.. How can she leave a 5yr old unattended. I don't know what I would do but sure sounds like someone should alert the police or someone. She was lucky this time.. That he was not killed or kidnapped. PS I hope you got the satisfication in telling her off because man she needs it!!!

07-23-2008, 07:16 PM	#5
Shada Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,228	The other night at 9:00pm I was driving thru town and saw 2 young children, neither one over 5 probably. In the street. Main street! One was on a skateboard, the other on a bike. I thought about going to the police station which was close, then noticed a police car behind me. I thought for sure he would pull over and do something... he drove right on by. I was furious!! We have a curfew, but regardless, these were little kids alone and on main street with traffic!!! He should have stopped. I don't understand. Where were the parents?? Why didn't the officer stop?? These kids were way to young to be out at that time of night alone!!!

07-24-2008, 10:21 AM	#14
donna1990 Donating 4WT Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Riverview, FL Posts: 1,077	She is a fool, a stranger could have picked him up and he could be gone forever. You did the right thing, I would have done that also. __________________

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