I could use some advice.

[Janet]

Dobie, they already know how you feel, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. I would attend the baptism and then maybe go for a bite to eat (depending on time of day) and then go to their home after the naming ceremony. I would still take a lovely gift.

You wrote you don't know why it makes you feel uncomfortable, it could be a number of things, but I believe you're being spoken to. The problem with most of us is we don't listen.

Don't know if this is any good advice, but I know you'll do what you can feel comfortable with.

[Emmsmom]

I agree with Janet. You didn't attend the naming ceremony of their 2 year old so like Jnaet said they understand how you feel. I would go to the baptism and then go over after the naming ceremony.

I am glad they are able to make things work. It sure does seem like it would be hard. Just goes to prove that anything is possible.

[HALEY]

Dobie i agree with Janet also, take a wonderful gift to the baptism, make your appearance, say your congrats. and sneak on out of there.. That would make me feel uncomfortable to with the chanting and all, a little creapy for me, but it's what they believe in.

[Dobie]

Originally Posted by Janet

Dobie, they already know how you feel, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. I would attend the baptism and then maybe go for a bite to eat (depending on time of day) and then go to their home after the naming ceremony. I would still take a lovely gift.

You wrote you don't know why it makes you feel uncomfortable, it could be a number of things, but I believe you're being spoken to. The problem with most of us is we don't listen.

Don't know if this is any good advice, but I know you'll do what you can feel comfortable with.

It's good advice, I think I'll do that - there's a small shopping center near there home, I can do a little window shopping after the baptism then go back to the house later on. Thanks everyone - I think I needed someone else to tell me it was ok not to attend. The first time felt different because the ceremonies were on 2 seperate days.

[blowry]

I also agree with Janet...It would make me very uncomfortable also.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Dobie

It's good advice, I think I'll do that - there's a small shopping center near there home, I can do a little window shopping after the baptism then go back to the house later on. Thanks everyone - I think I needed someone else to tell me it was ok not to attend. The first time felt different because the ceremonies were on 2 seperate days.

I'm glad you figured it all out. I think I would do the same thing in that situation.

[DianaB]

I think that you've been given good advice. I wouldn't go if I felt uncomfortable with the ceremony either. I don't understand how the two religions get along because they are complete opposites.

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by DianaB

I think that you've been given good advice. I wouldn't go if I felt uncomfortable with the ceremony either. I don't understand how the two religions get along because they are complete opposites.

I don't see how they are opposites... both religions believe in a god and that people are to do good for others. They both strive for forgiveness and peace. The one bigger difference is that Christianity puts men above women, and Wicca teaches that men and women are equal.
I don't want to start a big religious debate here or anything, I just like to keep an open mind about a lot of things. I've done a lot of research into a lot of different religions. There are a lot of things that give many religions a bad reputation, like Wicca is portrayed through tv and movies as evil witches who worship the devil, and how the Muslim religion has been attacked like crazy since the "war on terror" has begun.
I should probably keep my mouth shut but I really just wanted to speak up on this matter. I don't want anyone to get angry at me for it, but I just wanted to remind everyone to keep an open mind about things
And Dobie, I'm not saying that you should go. If it really makes you uncomfortable, you really don't have to! I think it would be a great idea to go to the baptism and then stop in again later.

[HALEY]

Originally Posted by Lindsey

I don't see how they are opposites... both religions believe in a god and that people are to do good for others. They both strive for forgiveness and peace. The one bigger difference is that Christianity puts men above women, and Wicca teaches that men and women are equal.
I don't want to start a big religious debate here or anything, I just like to keep an open mind about a lot of things. I've done a lot of research into a lot of different religions. There are a lot of things that give many religions a bad reputation, like Wicca is portrayed through tv and movies as evil witches who worship the devil, and how the Muslim religion has been attacked like crazy since the "war on terror" has begun.
I should probably keep my mouth shut but I really just wanted to speak up on this matter. I don't want anyone to get angry at me for it, but I just wanted to remind everyone to keep an open mind about things
And Dobie, I'm not saying that you should go. If it really makes you uncomfortable, you really don't have to! I think it would be a great idea to go to the baptism and then stop in again later.

Very interesting Lindsey, i didn't know that about Wicca, i wish every religion teaches that men and women are equal, heck we have to work in todays world so we bring home the bread also, we should be equal... right?? and Lindsey were all grown woman here and you should speck whats on your mind. i just learned something today that i didn't know, that's why i read these treads!!!

[Ponyup]

I didn't know Wiccan's believed in God, I thought they worshiped the earth & the elements. You learn something new everyday.

I am so grateful to you for posting your original question and opening a discussion about the isse. It is a true breath of fresh air to see and to know that people can discuss this without prejudice and judgement!! THANK YOU!!