Losing a friend

[jrsygal37]

I think he must really love this girl (screw ball or not) and that he's trying not to hurt you but does not know how to tell you that he does not want to be bothered anymore. Don't take this wrong but he may feel that you want more then friendship (or) he may feel that he's cheating by having a secret friendship with you. Either way he's chosen this girl and believe me I know that hurts but honestly you will be far better off if you just forget him. He may come back to you again one day but you have to let HIM come to you and not force it otherwise you will definately lose him forever. I hope it works out. Elaine

[Janet]

You know Lindsey, I just thought of something. Maybe he's staying away from you and all his other friends because he really does care about her, but knows how you all feel about her. Maybe he's afraid to tell you all that he really loves her (even if she's nuts) so he just stays away and that way won't have to listen to people trying to advise him to put some distance between him and her. Some guys will never admit they are 'whipped' in any way.

[Lindsey]

I think he knows that if she actually has changed and isn't so possessive I'd be all for it. I pushed him to date her in the first place. I was so happy and excited for him. This girl is SO pretty, and not to be mean, but Tyler just doesn't get pretty girls, ever. When he first showed me pictures of her I told him "go for her, she's CUTE!" and she really is gorgeous, nice smile, long blonde hair... To paint a picture of Tyler, he's very tall, scrawny, glasses, basically the image of "nerd" in any tv show or movie, including him being very socially awkward. But I like his geekiness because I'm a geek on the inside too lol. And at the start he'd constantly tell me how sweet she was and how she was such a great girlfriend and I honestly was so so so so happy for him.
I really just hate how she controls him. And I wouldn't even have a clue, I didn't know she snooped through his emails until he complained to me about it. I didn't know she snooped through his phone until he complained to me about it. I didn't know she was jealous of his FAMILY until he complained to me about it. I was the person he came to everytime she was a drama queen and threw fits in public, said she was going to kill herself, etc. So that's how I got my perception of her.
I don't know. I'm not going to contact him anymore. I've sent him 2 emails since June, and that's as much as I'm going to try. Really, if he doesn't want to be my friend, then screw it. I have other friends. He can remain friendless if he wants. I'm sure he'll have a happy well-balanced life that way.