Why did you decide to have children?

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

We wanted children desperately, but that was over 20 years ago, and was another time. You should never have children until you are ready and want them badly. Due to infertility issues, we did not have children until I was 31. People had just about quit asking when we were having any, we'd married when I was 19. I heard ladies whispering at a wedding wondering when we were going to have children and concluding that something MUST be wrong.

People can be so cruel. Having or not having children is a very personal decision, and should never be taken lightly. Look at all the women in the Bible who were barren and the sadness and even ridicule they endured. We are fortunate at least in this age that we have more ability to decide what we want.

I don't know what I would do without our girls, but if you don't want to add children to the world, why not think about adopting babies already born. A couple we know adopted two 8 month old boys from Guatemala. They are so cute. Any grandmother would be proud of them and they have a wonderful family here in America. There are lots of options if you check around.

But, being childless is an okay decision, too. You will definitely have more money to use in other ways!!

I have actually been thinking a lot about adoption. My mom thinks that there would be a lot more problems involved with an adopted child rather than a natural birth child, but I don't agree. This is something I wish my grandmother was still around so I could speak with her about it. My mom's first cousin adopted a girl & things have turned out really well. I think I will speak to her about the adoption process. My thoughts are that I don't think I want to bring a child into this society, but it would be nice to take a child that's already here & give them a better life.