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[gja1000]

It is difficult when children make decisions we don't agree with - but you said it, they are her decisions. It is hard when they affect the rest of the family. Things will change in time - maybe not the way we want them to change, but one thing is sure, change is constant.

<<<<<<< HUGS>>>>>>>

[Tink]

My thoughts and prayers are still with your Diana.

[judy]

Diana, my prayers are with you. I know how it feels to watch your daughter make terrible choices and then go deeper and deeper into them. I have shared these with you all. It was so awful.

But, I also know, as I have shared with you all too, that it is entirely possible that you will be totally surprised by how she comes through all of this. Nobody was more shocked then me when my daughter finally called me. She has become a
woman I am proud to have raised. I love her husband, ad my grachildren are fabulous. She has told me that she is glad she went through those very hard times. She knows that she grew tremendously because of it.

My heart is with you my dear friend. Remember, if you can, that God doesn't things on his own time, not when we want them done. Keep praying.

[donna1990]

God bless you, I have two sons, they are 39 and 40. The oldest was on drugs all of his life until 3 years ago and is now clean, the youngest one was diagnoised with adult onset diabetes a couple years ago, he is still doing drugs, there is nothing I can do and it breaks my heart. I know when he is using because I don't hear from him, it has been 3 months, but he owes me money, which I should never have loaned it to him.
When we first found out that he had diabetes, several days went by that I didn't hear from him, tried calling, nothing, he was suppose to come over for a visit. I thought he could be home in a diabetic coma, went to his house, his truck was there, I had a key but the dead bolts inside were locked. I beat on the doors, windows, started busting his bedroom window out and I heard him, "Mom, I can't see you now, I said, "are you using again", he said yes, I asked what, cocaine. I stay awake a night just praying for my piece of mind because there is nothing I can do to help me.
So, I pray for you too.

[gja1000]

WOW - Donna, that's about all I can say. I've never had experiences with a child making such bad decisions, I can't imagine how hard it is. I'm really sorry you have to go through all this. I'm sorry any parent has to have so much pain and worry.

[Marilyn]

(((((((((Diana))))))))))((((((((((Donna))))))))))) ))

So sad that both of you are going through tough times. Be sure to take care of yourselves and the others affected as much as you can. I have a dear friend whose sister has been making some really bad decisions. The thing that gets me is the person making the decisions thinks it's no one else's business. They have no idea the effect and turmoil their actions are causing, or if they do know, just don't seem to care. Often they act like they are somehow the victim and very selfishly cling to their right to do whatever they want, it's their life. Well it's actually not their life. God gave them life, and gave His Son for them, but they forget that or choose not to believe it.

Sometimes we become stronger for having lived through adversity. That does not make things easier when it is happening though. Hugs and prayers are with you both.

[donna1990]

Thanks Marilyn.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by donna1990

God bless you, I have two sons, they are 39 and 40. The oldest was on drugs all of his life until 3 years ago and is now clean, the youngest one was diagnoised with adult onset diabetes a couple years ago, he is still doing drugs, there is nothing I can do and it breaks my heart. I know when he is using because I don't hear from him, it has been 3 months, but he owes me money, which I should never have loaned it to him.
When we first found out that he had diabetes, several days went by that I didn't hear from him, tried calling, nothing, he was suppose to come over for a visit. I thought he could be home in a diabetic coma, went to his house, his truck was there, I had a key but the dead bolts inside were locked. I beat on the doors, windows, started busting his bedroom window out and I heard him, "Mom, I can't see you now, I said, "are you using again", he said yes, I asked what, cocaine. I stay awake a night just praying for my piece of mind because there is nothing I can do to help me.
So, I pray for you too.

Donna, I'm so sorry that I'm late getting back to you. I'm so sorry about what you're dealing with with your son. It really makes my problems seem so small. I have a brother that's been on drugs for years (marijuana and meth) but he's entered a program that really seems to be helping. It's a really hard road for parents to watch their children go down. I'll keep your son in my prayers. You know that we're all here if you ever need us. Hugs--Diana