Growing Pains....

[Janet]

Kimberley, I think, since you're friends with the other mother and you've already talked, that it is time to get the two girls together with their mothers present. Even if there are tears, maybe that is what this other girl needs to see in order to understand how hurtful her actions are. It would have to be not confrontational, but ask the other girl if your daughter has done something to have her treat her this way. Then the ball is rolling. If things start to slow down, then encourage your daughter by saying, "well you have said this happened, why not ask her about that." Have the girls tell what they like about each other and what they don't. You may get a clue as to the real problem by asking that question. Have the girls talk with each other with both mothers there to keep things moving, but not interfering. This will also teach the girls to talk about their problems not only with each other but with others as well.

These years are so hard for our kids and it is so heartbreaking. If nothing is settled or things don't get better then it is time for your daughter to move on to bigger and better things...and friends.