Anybody want a brother in law?????

[Willow]

Congratulations on the sale of your house!

Any chance your BIL is related to mine? They sound like they were cut from the same mold!

[khardy57]

Originally Posted by Willow

Congratulations on the sale of your house!

Any chance your BIL is related to mine? They sound like they were cut from the same mold!

If he is I feel for you! For my own sanity, I've had to cut all ties with my late husband's family. They were driving me crazy!

I spent a lot of time choosing the headstone and slab for my husband. I arrange the flowers myself and every time I go to the cemetery, they've moved something! It really ticks me off. I don't say anything though because that's what they want me to do. I just put the flowers back like they are supposed to be and move on.

[SweetCuteness]

Wow, your in-laws sound like a real piece of work. Were they like this when your husband was alive? Well congrats on selling the house and cutting the ties with the ex-in-laws!

[Willow]

Originally Posted by khardy57

If he is I feel for you! For my own sanity, I've had to cut all ties with my late husband's family. They were driving me crazy!

I spent a lot of time choosing the headstone and slab for my husband. I arrange the flowers myself and every time I go to the cemetery, they've moved something! It really ticks me off. I don't say anything though because that's what they want me to do. I just put the flowers back like they are supposed to be and move on.

Yeah we have pretty much cut ties with my husbands siblings. His sister we no longer talk to at all! Everytime we take flowers up to his mom's grave his sister used to take them off and throw them away. She said we should all ask her permission before placing anything there since she paid for the headstone and it cost her $500. My husband replied she should have asked him before she had a headstone set since he paid $8,000 for the funeral out of his own pocket with no help from his siblings. She shut up, packed up her family, and moved to Tennessee. We haven't spoke to them in over a year and it has been so peaceful!

Now his brother, he ruined my husband financially and still expects us to help out when he and his wife need it. His family has bled us dry and it is all we can do to care for our own now. We lost everything we owned at the hands of his brother. We have forgiven, we just do not forget. We only see his brother once a year and that is once too many for me. We are only polite because we have to be.

[khardy57]

Originally Posted by Willow

Yeah we have pretty much cut ties with my husbands siblings. His sister we no longer talk to at all! Everytime we take flowers up to his mom's grave his sister used to take them off and throw them away. She said we should all ask her permission before placing anything there since she paid for the headstone and it cost her $500. My husband replied she should have asked him before she had a headstone set since he paid $8,000 for the funeral out of his own pocket with no help from his siblings. She shut up, packed up her family, and moved to Tennessee. We haven't spoke to them in over a year and it has been so peaceful!

Now his brother, he ruined my husband financially and still expects us to help out when he and his wife need it. His family has bled us dry and it is all we can do to care for our own now. We lost everything we owned at the hands of his brother. We have forgiven, we just do not forget. We only see his brother once a year and that is once too many for me. We are only polite because we have to be.

Sounds like my husband's family. They were like this when he was alive. His brother was the "chosen" one and my husband did all the work. He got up at 4:00 every morning, checked everything on the farm including his parents, went to work at the DOT by 7:00 each morning and worked 12 hours. He did everything in reverse every evening and I was lucky if he got home before 9:00. HIs brother did NOTHING. My husband literally worked himself to death. Sorry, I am very bitter.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by khardy57

Sounds like my husband's family. They were like this when he was alive. His brother was the "chosen" one and my husband did all the work. He got up at 4:00 every morning, checked everything on the farm including his parents, went to work at the DOT by 7:00 each morning and worked 12 hours. He did everything in reverse every evening and I was lucky if he got home before 9:00. HIs brother did NOTHING. My husband literally worked himself to death. Sorry, I am very bitter.

I sincerely hope the bitterness fades and you can open yourself up to the new life you have now. I can't remember who said it...but the saying is..."you can only be happy, if you set your mind to be." Hopefully, since ties have been cut to the in-laws, you can move on to a positive, bright future.

[Marilyn]

So happy for you that you get to start a new fresh life now!!! We've been through family issues and they are absolutely the worst. Take care of yourself now, and hope that you find real peace.

[khardy57]

Thank you all so much! I'm just not in a very good frame of mind right now because Tuesday, the 24th is the first anniversary of Mark's death. My emotions have ranged from anger, to extreme despair and I'm having a really hard time emotionally right now.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by khardy57

Thank you all so much! I'm just not in a very good frame of mind right now because Tuesday, the 24th is the first anniversary of Mark's death. My emotions have ranged from anger, to extreme despair and I'm having a really hard time emotionally right now.

We're here for you anytime. Okay everyone, listen up, we need as many as possible on here on the 24th. If you need someone, I'm sure there will be some of us on here. Wish we could be with you in person to wrap our arms around you. You'll get through it, just try to keep yourself busy and we're here if you need us.