Met the parents!

[DianaB]

I wouldn't be ready to get rid of him because he's a mama's boy. Just like you're already doing, keep talking to him and if he really wants a relationship with you then he'll work things out with his mom. Just give him some time to see how things go.

My husband was a mama's boy when I married him and after he realized how much it hurt me he cut back on how much his mom was involved in his life. He still sees his mom a lot but she's not running his life anymore.

[Lindsey]

Thank you Diana. I hope that is how things turn out in my situation. I really like that he cares so much for his mom, but I don't want him to rely on her for everything. I know it's early in the relationship, but we have both talked about how well we just fit together and how nice it would be to build a life together... and if I'm going to be a big part of his life, I'd hope that eventually there'd be a switch where I'M the one he'd talk to before his mom. Of course she can be in the background for support, but not in the position to make decisions for him.
Anyways, I feel like after everything last night, we're a lot more bonded than we were before. It's all out in the open. I like that he didn't immediately get defensive like any other guy I've dated. He saw my problem and now we can deal with it like adults. He told me last night "I like fighting with you, because it's not like a real fight. It's just a discussion and we both feel better in the end" And I think that's how it should be... no drama! I've already had my share of drama I really like this guy. I know there are other fish in the sea, but I feel like he's my special fish! I don't want to look for any other fish!

[Lindsey]

Mandy, I told him exactly that last night. I said that I will definitely give his mom another chance... I understand she may have had misconceptions about me just because of his past girlfriends, and it was her first time meeting me and she probably feels that nobody is good enough for her son. And I can definitely prove I'm enough for him, and more But I said if she says anything rude to me, or anything I find offensive, I WILL stand up for myself, even if he doesn't. But I also told him I would expect him to stand up for me too He said he's definitely stood up to his mom before in the same situations with girlfriends. Soooo we'll see what happens. I'm going to just look past this first meeting and try to start fresh when I visit them!

[judy]

"I will do anything to make you happy"

Lindsey - that's a lovely thing for him to say and to feel. I would definitely give him another chance. Remember, things do not happen overnight. It's a process. Even if he messes up, I think you are handling this very well, so just keep on doing what you're doing. I also like that he likes to discuss things, and doesn't get defensive.

I really do hope it lasts, and I know you do too. But, even if it doesn't last, it sounds like a very nice relationship to be in and you and he are getting a lot from each other and growing in very important ways. Enjoy it!

[Lindsey]

Thank you Judy, I am really enjoying it And guess what! We've been together since Friday night and his mom hasn't called ONCE! That's never happened! I even talked to my mom twice this morning lol.
We went to another open house yesterday, and the house was gorgeous and relatively cheap. There have been a few offers already but he can't find out how much of a mortgage he can get until he talks with the bank on Tuesday. He really wants to put an offer in on it though. And he was saying things to me like "It's only 3 blocks from your grandma's house so we could just walk there and visit!" and "The yard is all fenced in so Layla can run around!" and he was talking about how we could knock out the wall between two little bedrooms upstairs to make a bigger master bedroom with a large closet and a vanity area for me. ME. I always think about that kind of stuff but I love that he's thinking about it too. We're not ready to take that step yet, but he's thinking of me already in his decisions.
I don't feel I've ever been this serious about someone before. I don't want to jinx anything, but even before we were seeing each other, when we were just friends, I told my cousin "He is going to fall in love with me, he's the one" and I still believe it with all my heart.

[DianaB]

I knew that my husband was the one for me before we started dating. He had all the qualities that I loved and I haven't been disappointed!!!!! Good luck, Lindsey!!

[Lindsey]

I love hearing that from people like you Diana, because you're so happy in your marriage! I always laughed at people who said they had "love at first sight", or knew after a couple months of dating that they wanted to be together forever, but I guess it's just because I've never experienced it before. So now I think, maybe it is real! Maybe you CAN know! But we'll see what the future brings I can't believe how excited I am to take him home for the first time next weekend. I never liked taking boyfriends home before.