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Lindsey · 09-07-2006, 07:38 PM

I think she felt bad about it finally, she told me she would try to get him to go to her house tonight so i could get some sleep, but if he wouldn't then she'd be here again. I wish I could tell her to get her hormones in check! Moving out isn't an option for me or my roommate unfortunately. I first moved in with the help of my parents and their truck with all my furniture, and my roommate had to get some of our friends with trucks to help him move all his stuff. It's just a hassle when we're both only staying in this city until the middle of december when we both graduate. I guess I'll have to grumpily live with it until then.
Today after school my roommate fell fast asleep in his room downstairs because he didn't sleep last night, and obviously neither did I. It's a little childish of me but I let him know how it feels in a less disturbing way, I turned on the tv loudly and then kept heavily walking up and down the squeaky stairs to do laundry. It didn't take him long to wake up

Lindsey · 09-07-2006, 11:59 PM

apparently the whole plan of going to her house tonight didn't work out, and I had an awesome sleep for an hour until my little watchdog decided to let me know someone was entering the house by barking loud enough to wake up the neighborhood, and sure enough, there's her shoes at the front door and there's the sex noises coming from downstairs.

Lindsey · 09-08-2006, 02:19 AM

sorry guys, i have nobody else to talk to at this hour. I have to wake up for school in 2 and a half hours and I have slept a total of ONE hour tonight. I think I'm too upset to fall asleep again at all. So on 1-3 hours of sleep tonight I get to go to a full day of school including projects and assignments, and then get in a car with the person who is causing me not to sleep, and pretend to be all nice and normal while driving 2 hours to where her parents live and my boyfriend lives. I have to be there in time to watch my boyfriend play a volleyball game from the deck of a noisy bar, and then go straight to a giant loud "indoor beach party" that I look forward to every year and just spent $36 on a ticket for.
How can I have the energy to be a fun, happy girlfriend and not mope around and sleep all weekend? How am I going to drive two hours on so little sleep?
And in my crazy sleepy state I can't stop thinking about how she slept with my boyfriend. When I hear her down with my roommate, I can't stop picturing her with my boyfriend. She was so open with me about it, I unwillingly listened to her throw into regular conversations what position they were in, how long it lasted, how good it was for her... Okay now I'm bawling again.
It's not his fault, he didn't even know me then. He regrets it, he says it's the biggest mistake he's made, it meant nothing. He's so good to me, I don't want it to get between us, and I wish I could forget about it but I have this reminder EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. In one week she has went from being one of my closest friends to someone I never want to see again.
I'm rambling

Mandy · 09-08-2006, 03:26 AM

Oh girl, i'm sorry i didnt know it was this bad!!

Speak to your BF about it this weekend, tell him how you feel and all that's bothering you.
The things your "friend" is doing to you, is not very nice of her!!
Quite honestly, i think your friend and room mate are disgusting!!

Have a safe drive, take your time, and when you get there, go have a nice long hot bubble bath.

Lindsey · 09-08-2006, 04:21 AM

Thanks for the reply. I'm still up, and showered, and soon to get ready for school. She always manages to leave in the morning without having to confront me, so I hope this morning she feels bad when she sees the giant bags under my red eyes and knows I might not make it to see my boyfriend tonight, cutting me down to only seeing him one day for the next two weeks.
I have talked to my boyfriend about her, and what happened between them isn't something he wants to remember either, and he feels bad when I dwell on it. We didn't even know each other then, and he was pretty drunk on new years eve, and rebounding from a girl who cheated on him for two years. My friend I guess just tries to make it seem like it was way more.
And I'm going to have to agree with the disgusting part. I can't stand people who just have sex for fun and have no attachment to each other. I hate that they assume that just because I know about them, it's okay for them to do it every night and not worry about being discreet at all.

09-08-2006, 07:56 AM

if she is messing up your sleep and you can't do well in school pootie on her....sounds like she is being an inconsiderate bitch. personally i would record them going at it and play it real loud in class and embarrass the s*** out of her.....maybe she'll learn and sweetheart don't fret over what your boyfriend did with her in the past. he is with you now and tht is obviously where he wants to be so just let it slide...hopefully you will have a good night's sleep tonight and maybe you and your man ought to howl and moan all night in her damn ear so she gets the damn point-plus more love for you to help you go to sleep!!!

Mandy · 09-08-2006, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Lindsey

Thanks for the reply. I'm still up, and showered, and soon to get ready for school. She always manages to leave in the morning without having to confront me, so I hope this morning she feels bad when she sees the giant bags under my red eyes and knows I might not make it to see my boyfriend tonight, cutting me down to only seeing him one day for the next two weeks.
I have talked to my boyfriend about her, and what happened between them isn't something he wants to remember either, and he feels bad when I dwell on it. We didn't even know each other then, and he was pretty drunk on new years eve, and rebounding from a girl who cheated on him for two years. My friend I guess just tries to make it seem like it was way more.
And I'm going to have to agree with the disgusting part. I can't stand people who just have sex for fun and have no attachment to each other. I hate that they assume that just because I know about them, it's okay for them to do it every night and not worry about being discreet at all.

Definatly don't allow yourself to dwell on the past, it's quite obvious that sleeping around is no big deal for her!
She probably makes it sound to you that it was a lot more, because that's what she wished it was!!

You have him now, and he's yours for good

Lindsey · 09-08-2006, 12:48 PM

You guys have made me feel so much better. Hopefully next week will be a different story. When she got up this morning she seemed really concerned and I told her the only hour of sleep I got all night was before she got here, and she wouldn't stop apologizing. She said she told my roommate to go to her house but he kept saying no, they'll be quiet here, and she told him she promised me she wouldn't come. But he won out because her car was only parked a block from here and she told him she knew I was gonna kill her. I guess that shows she understands it bothers me, but maybe just doesn't care as much as she cares about getting laid.
I went to first class today and another friend turned around and told me "You look TERRIBLE." so I told him I only had one hour of sleep. I asked why and the girl was like "Oh her dog kept her up all night"
After first class there was no point in being there, I didn't understand a thing that was going on, so I told her I was going home to sleep and she was like "I'll get your notes for you, it's the least i can do"... but she left right after I did.
I did catch up on 6 hours of sleep though, and I'm gonna go put something cold on my eyes so the puffiness goes down, and now that i'm in a better mood, hopefully i'll look better and feel better for the rest of the weekend!

Mandy · 09-08-2006, 12:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lindsey

You guys have made me feel so much better. Hopefully next week will be a different story. When she got up this morning she seemed really concerned and I told her the only hour of sleep I got all night was before she got here, and she wouldn't stop apologizing. She said she told my roommate to go to her house but he kept saying no, they'll be quiet here, and she told him she promised me she wouldn't come. But he won out because her car was only parked a block from here and she told him she knew I was gonna kill her. I guess that shows she understands it bothers me, but maybe just doesn't care as much as she cares about getting laid.
I went to first class today and another friend turned around and told me "You look TERRIBLE." so I told him I only had one hour of sleep. I asked why and the girl was like "Oh her dog kept her up all night"
After first class there was no point in being there, I didn't understand a thing that was going on, so I told her I was going home to sleep and she was like "I'll get your notes for you, it's the least i can do"... but she left right after I did.
I did catch up on 6 hours of sleep though, and I'm gonna go put something cold on my eyes so the puffiness goes down, and now that i'm in a better mood, hopefully i'll look better and feel better for the rest of the weekend!

Good for you!!!
Now if they start this crap again next week, tell him & her to go to HER house, they can wake the neighbours up there as far as you are concerned, but you need your sleep

Lindsey · 09-11-2006, 08:06 PM

Finally I got through! My friend and I spent some time together this weekend and she would not stop apologizing and begging me not to be mad at her, saying she would do anything. So I said okay, thinking I'll just see how this goes. Last night my roommate slept here, and she didn't come over. She told me today that he was begging her yesterday to come over and she told him "If you want anything from me, you can come here. I promised Lindsey I wouldn't go there anymore, and she might be just a roommate to you, but she's the only girlfriend I have here and I don't want to mess that up!"
I also let her know how much it hurt me when she used to talk about being with my boyfriend, and she apologized for that, too. She said she's so happy for us, and she's glad that she was part of bringing us together. If she knew the future at the time she was with him, she said she wouldn't have touched him.
Soooo I guess she's a better friend than I gave her credit for last week. I guess I'm kind of happy to have her back

RLC12345678 · 09-12-2006, 05:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lindsey

Finally I got through! My friend and I spent some time together this weekend and she would not stop apologizing and begging me not to be mad at her, saying she would do anything. So I said okay, thinking I'll just see how this goes. Last night my roommate slept here, and she didn't come over. She told me today that he was begging her yesterday to come over and she told him "If you want anything from me, you can come here. I promised Lindsey I wouldn't go there anymore, and she might be just a roommate to you, but she's the only girlfriend I have here and I don't want to mess that up!"
I also let her know how much it hurt me when she used to talk about being with my boyfriend, and she apologized for that, too. She said she's so happy for us, and she's glad that she was part of bringing us together. If she knew the future at the time she was with him, she said she wouldn't have touched him.
Soooo I guess she's a better friend than I gave her credit for last week. I guess I'm kind of happy to have her back

I'm so happy to hear that she is finally respecting your feelings. She honestly probably just didn't know how you felt about the situation until you spoke with her about it. Now that she knows that you were upset, she is trying to correct her wrongdoings. Hope things continue to get better.

Janet · 09-12-2006, 08:12 AM

I'm so glad things are working out. COMMUNICATION is the key to almost any disagreement. If thinks can't get worked out, at least all the cards were on the table.

Lindsey · 09-18-2006, 10:00 AM

Me again! I thought the whole situation was better, but it's not. She said she was going to not come over all last week, but that only lasted monday, tuesday, and wednesday. My roommate will NOT sleep at her house, and apparently she will not go without sex. At least I had the weekend here alone to catch up on sleep. Last night I was just about to go to bed when I heard someone trying to turn the doorknob on my front door! It was locked, so then they knocked. I answered and it was her again. She came in and plopped down on a chair and made some small talk, and then went straight downstairs. So instead of going to bed, I had to sit up for a couple hours with the tv turned up loud so I couldn't hear anything. I woke up early and went to morning classes, and now I'm home for lunch and my roommate STILL isn't awake. He's so behind but he's going to ask for my notes and everything to catch up, and I'm too nice to say no

I think I have to have a nap now so I can be awake for the afternoon.

2tiredmom · 09-18-2006, 01:23 PM

Just a thought maybe you should change the lock on your doors. But then she would just stand out banging on the door wanting in. Sorry bad idea.
I feel for you. But if your losing so much sleep you really do need to do something. It's not healthy for you to go without sleep.
2tiredmom

Ponyup · 09-18-2006, 01:45 PM

I'd threaten to tell everyone in class what's going on if they don't knock it off. They are not respecting you as a friend so why should you have to respect them.

Plus why don't they want people to know anyway. When I was dating I refused to date anyone that wanted our relationship kept a secret.

09-08-2006, 03:26 AM	#19
Mandy Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Who cares! Posts: 4,587	Oh girl, i'm sorry i didnt know it was this bad!! Speak to your BF about it this weekend, tell him how you feel and all that's bothering you. The things your "friend" is doing to you, is not very nice of her!! Quite honestly, i think your friend and room mate are disgusting!! Have a safe drive, take your time, and when you get there, go have a nice long hot bubble bath. __________________ Many people will walk in and out your life, but only true friends leave footprints!

09-18-2006, 10:00 AM	#28
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	Me again! I thought the whole situation was better, but it's not. She said she was going to not come over all last week, but that only lasted monday, tuesday, and wednesday. My roommate will NOT sleep at her house, and apparently she will not go without sex. At least I had the weekend here alone to catch up on sleep. Last night I was just about to go to bed when I heard someone trying to turn the doorknob on my front door! It was locked, so then they knocked. I answered and it was her again. She came in and plopped down on a chair and made some small talk, and then went straight downstairs. So instead of going to bed, I had to sit up for a couple hours with the tv turned up loud so I couldn't hear anything. I woke up early and went to morning classes, and now I'm home for lunch and my roommate STILL isn't awake. He's so behind but he's going to ask for my notes and everything to catch up, and I'm too nice to say no I think I have to have a nap now so I can be awake for the afternoon. __________________ Lindsey "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it..." -Marilyn Monroe

09-07-2006, 07:38 PM	#16
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	I think she felt bad about it finally, she told me she would try to get him to go to her house tonight so i could get some sleep, but if he wouldn't then she'd be here again. I wish I could tell her to get her hormones in check! Moving out isn't an option for me or my roommate unfortunately. I first moved in with the help of my parents and their truck with all my furniture, and my roommate had to get some of our friends with trucks to help him move all his stuff. It's just a hassle when we're both only staying in this city until the middle of december when we both graduate. I guess I'll have to grumpily live with it until then. Today after school my roommate fell fast asleep in his room downstairs because he didn't sleep last night, and obviously neither did I. It's a little childish of me but I let him know how it feels in a less disturbing way, I turned on the tv loudly and then kept heavily walking up and down the squeaky stairs to do laundry. It didn't take him long to wake up

09-07-2006, 11:59 PM	#17
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	apparently the whole plan of going to her house tonight didn't work out, and I had an awesome sleep for an hour until my little watchdog decided to let me know someone was entering the house by barking loud enough to wake up the neighborhood, and sure enough, there's her shoes at the front door and there's the sex noises coming from downstairs.

09-08-2006, 02:19 AM	#18
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	sorry guys, i have nobody else to talk to at this hour. I have to wake up for school in 2 and a half hours and I have slept a total of ONE hour tonight. I think I'm too upset to fall asleep again at all. So on 1-3 hours of sleep tonight I get to go to a full day of school including projects and assignments, and then get in a car with the person who is causing me not to sleep, and pretend to be all nice and normal while driving 2 hours to where her parents live and my boyfriend lives. I have to be there in time to watch my boyfriend play a volleyball game from the deck of a noisy bar, and then go straight to a giant loud "indoor beach party" that I look forward to every year and just spent $36 on a ticket for. How can I have the energy to be a fun, happy girlfriend and not mope around and sleep all weekend? How am I going to drive two hours on so little sleep? And in my crazy sleepy state I can't stop thinking about how she slept with my boyfriend. When I hear her down with my roommate, I can't stop picturing her with my boyfriend. She was so open with me about it, I unwillingly listened to her throw into regular conversations what position they were in, how long it lasted, how good it was for her... Okay now I'm bawling again. It's not his fault, he didn't even know me then. He regrets it, he says it's the biggest mistake he's made, it meant nothing. He's so good to me, I don't want it to get between us, and I wish I could forget about it but I have this reminder EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. In one week she has went from being one of my closest friends to someone I never want to see again. I'm rambling

09-08-2006, 04:21 AM	#20
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	Thanks for the reply. I'm still up, and showered, and soon to get ready for school. She always manages to leave in the morning without having to confront me, so I hope this morning she feels bad when she sees the giant bags under my red eyes and knows I might not make it to see my boyfriend tonight, cutting me down to only seeing him one day for the next two weeks. I have talked to my boyfriend about her, and what happened between them isn't something he wants to remember either, and he feels bad when I dwell on it. We didn't even know each other then, and he was pretty drunk on new years eve, and rebounding from a girl who cheated on him for two years. My friend I guess just tries to make it seem like it was way more. And I'm going to have to agree with the disgusting part. I can't stand people who just have sex for fun and have no attachment to each other. I hate that they assume that just because I know about them, it's okay for them to do it every night and not worry about being discreet at all.

09-08-2006, 07:56 AM	#21
ice queen Guest Posts: n/a	if she is messing up your sleep and you can't do well in school pootie on her....sounds like she is being an inconsiderate bitch. personally i would record them going at it and play it real loud in class and embarrass the s*** out of her.....maybe she'll learn and sweetheart don't fret over what your boyfriend did with her in the past. he is with you now and tht is obviously where he wants to be so just let it slide...hopefully you will have a good night's sleep tonight and maybe you and your man ought to howl and moan all night in her damn ear so she gets the damn point-plus more love for you to help you go to sleep!!!

09-08-2006, 12:48 PM	#23
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	You guys have made me feel so much better. Hopefully next week will be a different story. When she got up this morning she seemed really concerned and I told her the only hour of sleep I got all night was before she got here, and she wouldn't stop apologizing. She said she told my roommate to go to her house but he kept saying no, they'll be quiet here, and she told him she promised me she wouldn't come. But he won out because her car was only parked a block from here and she told him she knew I was gonna kill her. I guess that shows she understands it bothers me, but maybe just doesn't care as much as she cares about getting laid. I went to first class today and another friend turned around and told me "You look TERRIBLE." so I told him I only had one hour of sleep. I asked why and the girl was like "Oh her dog kept her up all night" After first class there was no point in being there, I didn't understand a thing that was going on, so I told her I was going home to sleep and she was like "I'll get your notes for you, it's the least i can do"... but she left right after I did. I did catch up on 6 hours of sleep though, and I'm gonna go put something cold on my eyes so the puffiness goes down, and now that i'm in a better mood, hopefully i'll look better and feel better for the rest of the weekend!

09-11-2006, 08:06 PM	#25
Lindsey Donating 4WT Talker Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Saskatchewan Posts: 3,764	Finally I got through! My friend and I spent some time together this weekend and she would not stop apologizing and begging me not to be mad at her, saying she would do anything. So I said okay, thinking I'll just see how this goes. Last night my roommate slept here, and she didn't come over. She told me today that he was begging her yesterday to come over and she told him "If you want anything from me, you can come here. I promised Lindsey I wouldn't go there anymore, and she might be just a roommate to you, but she's the only girlfriend I have here and I don't want to mess that up!" I also let her know how much it hurt me when she used to talk about being with my boyfriend, and she apologized for that, too. She said she's so happy for us, and she's glad that she was part of bringing us together. If she knew the future at the time she was with him, she said she wouldn't have touched him. Soooo I guess she's a better friend than I gave her credit for last week. I guess I'm kind of happy to have her back

09-12-2006, 08:12 AM	#27
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I'm so glad things are working out. COMMUNICATION is the key to almost any disagreement. If thinks can't get worked out, at least all the cards were on the table.

09-18-2006, 01:23 PM	#29
2tiredmom Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,367	Just a thought maybe you should change the lock on your doors. But then she would just stand out banging on the door wanting in. Sorry bad idea. I feel for you. But if your losing so much sleep you really do need to do something. It's not healthy for you to go without sleep. 2tiredmom

09-18-2006, 01:45 PM	#30
Ponyup Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 659	I'd threaten to tell everyone in class what's going on if they don't knock it off. They are not respecting you as a friend so why should you have to respect them. Plus why don't they want people to know anyway. When I was dating I refused to date anyone that wanted our relationship kept a secret.

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