How forgiving are you?

Lindsey, I am so glad that you finally found a KEEPER.

To be completely honest I have never been put in this situation, except in my past when a boyfriend of almost 1 year cheated on me, and it broke my heart. Only it was alot easier because we weren't married. As soon as I found out, it was over. I broke up with him right away. I am worth more than that. Some people are forgiving on these types of things, my best friend being one of them, her husband has cheated on her a million times, including with her own sister (yeah..I know). But I personally couldn't forgive something like this. I have thought long and hard about this before and I honestly do not think that I would be able to stay. One of the main reasons being that I know in my heart of hearts that I personally would never be able to trust him again, ever. Once someone breaks my trust, it is pretty much broken. That's it. I know we are supposed to forgive, but I'm sorry, that just isn't in me when it comes to something like this.

We have some Kick Ass Women on here. Not to mention eloquent ones too!

[Cribal]

I will FORGIVE just about anything, but I NEVER fORGET ANYTHING!!!

The couple things that I will say forsure that I would never forgive would be Abuse (of anykind:verbal or physical) and cheating.

I know part of this topic wasn't abuse but someone brought it up so.... : I would pitty the man that would ever put a hand on me. I'm not trying to say that I'm this really strong person that could beat up men but if a guy hits me and if I don't believe my fist will do enough damage back then my but is going for a base ball bat or something that would probly end up putting me in jail.

Now I do have to say that I don't believe in a female being able to go crazy and hitting a guy and him not do something back. This situation I was talking about above was if a man hit a woman without her hitting him first. I believe that if I have enough balls to him a man then I shouldn't get mad if he hits me back. Please nobody be mad at me for saying this but that's just how I feel.

As for the cheating thing. There is NO WAY I would ever take back a cheater. I believe once a cheater, always a cheater.

Crystal

[ginab]

my theory is, if they love you they wouldnt do it.. i dont care how drunk you are.
its done goodbye.,,, see ya later...

[Mandy]

I think once that trust is gone, it'll be hard to get back!! Like they say "once a cheater, always a cheater"

[Ponyup]

A one time mistake is one thing, it would be hard to get over & it would put a strain, but I would probably try to work through it. An affair is a completely different thing. It's not just sex usually there is emotion involved in an affair & lots of lying. I would have to say an affair would mean the end.

[rivermom]

I don't ever have to question my husband and I am very thankful for that part of peace that remains within my heart.

Him and I have been married before and both of us cheated with our spouses for various reasons. We've been down that road so with the marriage we have now we both have such an understanding as to what all is involved physically and emotionally playing that "cheating game". It takes its toll and it's never a positive experience.

I don't agree with the slogan "once a cheater always a cheater" as I am living proof it doesn't hold up.

I can't really imagine having to forgive my husband for cheating because I haven't had to even place that thought in my mind. So, this is a question I am unable to answer.